Pregnant mistress: My husband vowed to kill me, says battered Ekiti lecturer

Her husband and his employee

Before that day, there had been issues. It involved one of the staff members in his private clinic whose employment I facilitated when the clinic needed someone. Like other staff members, she lived in the hospital’s premises. When I got to know about their affairs, I called his attention to it, but he said something else.

He said whatever relationship existed between them was based on work. He also said the lady had someone with whom she was in a relationship, but the person was based abroad. When I also got to know that the lady was pregnant, I called him and asked, but he wasn’t straightforward with his answers.
Nevertheless, I tried to manage the situation until I was being threatened and told to do certain things for the lady, which got me depressed.

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In January this year, I informed the International Federation of Women Lawyers, FIDA, because there was domestic violence against me. However, I later withdrew the case due to the fact that I was trying to see how things will not affect him and his career.

Later in the year, the situation got out of hand, especially when he told me to play with the lady and ensure I do things for her. The situation affected me and the children (three boys of 14-year-old, 12-year-old and the youngest, eight). They all became emotionally unstable. Witnessing the violence inflicted on me really affected the children. It was at that time that I realised that my life was being threatened and I decided to leave with the children. Consequently, I filed for separation. Later, we agreed to settle out of court because I thought that things would get better.

Opposition from her family and kids

Even though my siblings didn’t support it (settlement) nor did my parents, I went back because I didn’t want to be stigmatized and I also thought I would be able to cope with him. In October last year, I went back against all odds. The children weren’t happy about it and didn’t support my going back.

But, as children, they had no choice. We continued like that, managing the situation. Recently, there were issues of violence, especially threats that he would kill me. In fact, one incident happened where it was the first child who saved me. It was after that incident that I said, with the way the situation was unraveling, it would be better to find an escape route for myself, so that it wouldn’t result in my death.

On if the matter was being blown out of proportion

Pregnant mistress: My husband vowed to kill me, says battered Ekiti lecturer