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Men beware – Lack of sex can make your wife miserable, angry

IT is a well-known fact that sex has come to be an accepted stress reliever.  Some mornings, Felicia confesses she feels so lethargic she has to force herself out of bed.  At work, the lethargy turns to irritability and she finds herself snapping at colleagues for no reason before returning home and picking silly arguments with Dan, her husband about dirty dishes and not helping enough with the children.  Sound familiar?

While Felicia’s mood swings may bear some resemblance to the symptoms of pre-menstrual tension or mild anxiety.  They are completely unrelated to her hormones or mental state.  Her crushingly low spirits are caused by something else altogether – when she last made love.  Too long without sex, and she becomes miserable and fractions.  “I feel so low, it’s like I’m almost depressed,” confesses Felicia, 33, an executive assistant.  “On the weekend, I can’t be bothered to look after the house or do any house work and I’m so short-tempered and feel angry at Dan for everything.

“At work too, my colleagues detect my change in mood and ask if I’m Ok, and I’ll then say  I’m feeling a bit low so they won’t take it personally.”  Felicia, a mother of two children aged five and 16 months, said she made the connection between her mood swings and the state of her love life after her children were born.  “Before we had children, we’d have sex whenever we wanted and would hardly go a day or two without,” she recalls.  “But parenthood drained our energy and we’d often be too exhausted.

As the gaps between our lovemaking become wider, I noticed the difference in my attitude to Dan.  Even when we hadn’t had sex for just a week, I’d start to feel like we were drifting apart and it made me frustrated and angry.  I worried about everything and whether our relationship was in trouble.  It was very frightening.  I can see how couples could break up in these circumstances. A ‘sex famine’ as it’s now popularly referred to, is something many exhausted parents can identify with, not to mention couples who’ve lapsed into a lazy over-familiarity in long relationships.”

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The truth is we’re simply not making love as often as we need to.  And what’s now becoming apparent are the serious repercussions.  As well as impacting on our mood and mental health, experts now believe a lack of sex is particularly responsible for the break-up of some marriages.  Early last year, scientists from Florida State University confirmed the importance of sex in making women happy, revealing it triggers an ‘afterglow’ that lingers for 48 hours and which helps couples to bond.  Without it, they become miserable and distant.

“And the statistics back this up – according to a recent global survey of 26,000 people aged 16 and older across 26 countries, only 44 per cent of people are fully satisfied with their sex lives. A report by the Kinsey Sex Institute noted that a woman who had sex nine times in a month was 1.24 times as likely to be happy as a woman who had sex four times in a month.

Scientists blame lack of sex activity in the bedroom on the stresses of modern living.  The researchers say this decrease in the amount of sex we have could be due to the increased connectivity of modern life, with screens and distractions which don’t go off at 11pm as the old and few TV CHANNELS USED TO.  You can see why people would have more time for sex.  What else was there to do on a rainy evening in the pre-Net-fix and wi-fi days than slip under the covers with a willing partner?

“Modern women are working harder too.  Add this to the fact that most of us are available online 24/7 and juggling demanding jobs with just as demanding children, and sleep is what most of us lust after in bed,.  Dr. Geoff Hackeff, a leading expert in sexual medicine believes if we carry on like this, sex is in danger of being a lost art.  “The domestic set-up in the Fifties, for example, seemed to positively encourage sex,” he says.  “But nowadays, there’s not enough focus on it.  Women are tired; they’re working or focusing on screaming children.  Some are even exhausting themselves at the gym – which, done to excess, can affect your hormones and destroy your desire.  An active sex life keeps couples together and makes people live longer.”

For Dan, Felicia’s husband, the Jekyll and Hyde changes in his wife’s personality when they don’t have time for physical intimacy have been hard to bear.  “It was awful,” he says.  “She’d shout at me for little things I had or hadn’t done, and because we both work full-time, it made everything so much harder.  Before we had kids, we’d have a lot of sex, but now we’re tired and it’s more difficult.  I do miss sex too, but I don’t suffer without it as much as Felicia does.  And the only thing that could end the strained atmosphere is to get intimate.  As soon as we have sex, her bad mood lifts and I have my loving, kind wife back.  It’s as if a switch had been flicked.”

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Felicia agrees.  “It’s like we’ve entered the honeymoon period and for the next few days, I’ll feel all happy and normal again.  But this only lasts for a week or ten days, so we make a conscious effort to have sex regularly, even if we don’t feel like it.”  For year, studies have lauded the physical and psychological benefits of sex.  Behaviour linking regular sexual activity to emotional well-being, found that younger women felt more depressed the longer they hadn’t had sex.  This is because, like any exercise that raises your heart rate, sex causes your brain to release feel – good chemicals that boost your levels of serotonin – the happy hormone – to lift your mood.  Serotonin is the body’s key anti-depressant chemical and one of the major reasons people feel happy and relaxed after sex.

According to David Weeks, former head of old age psychology and clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, people need to be more aware of the importance of a healthy sex life, particularly in their early years.  “Sex has a number of health benefit, which can make men and women look five to seven years younger,” he says.  “It causes the release of endorphins, the ‘feel good’ chemical which acts as a natural pain-killer and reduces anxiety, aiding sleep.  The exercise itself boost circulation which is good for the heart and it also causes the human growth hormone to be released which produces more lean “muscles and less fat and makes the skin look more elastic and attractive.”

But it’s not just physiological benefits that count.  Dr. Weeks claims sexual satisfaction is a major contributor to quality of life and the psychological impact cannot be understated.  “If there’s an absence of pleasure, there is an absence of connectedness between two people, and people may start to have doubts about their relationships,” he says.  “Sex sustains intimacy and there are some people who crave that need for sociability and sex more than others.”

Who Needs Light In The Dark?  (Humour)

A guy on a date parks his car and gets his girlfriend in the back seat.  They make love, and the girl wants to do it again almost instantly.

They end up doing it a second, a third and a fourth time, until the bloke needs a rest and ask his girlfriend to excuse him as he needs to take a leak.  While out of the car, he notices a man a few yards away changing a flat tyre.  He walks over and says, “Listen, my girlfriend’s over there in my car and I’ve already given it to her four times and she still wants more.  If you give her one for me, I’ll change your tyre.”

The lucky motorist readily agrees, climbs into the vehicle and begins shagging the insatiable girl.  While he is at it doggy styles, a police man shines a torch through the window.  “What do you think you’re doing there?” he asks the man, who replies, “I’m making love to my wife.”

The police man looks bemused and says, “Why don’t you do it at home?”

The man answers, “Well, I didn’t know it was my wife until you shone the torch on her.”

 

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Niger Mosque Abductions: Terrorists Execute 30 of 500 Captive Muslim Worshippers

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Inspector-General of Police, Olatunji Disu

Niger Mosque Abductions: Terrorists Execute 30 of 500 Captive Muslim Worshippers

 

MINNA, NIGERIA – The mass abduction of worshippers from mosques in Niger State has escalated dramatically, with armed terrorists reportedly executing some of the hundreds of captives seized during Friday prayers. The Inspector-General of Police, Olatunji Disu, travelled to Niger State on Saturday to assess the security situation and ordered reinforced rescue operations.

 

The attacks occurred on Friday, 21 August 2026, at approximately 2pm. Police spokesperson Wasiu Abiodun confirmed that armed men simultaneously attacked mosques in four communities – Dekara, Kpenya, Sabon-Gida and Gidan-Zana – in the Borgu Local Government Area, while Muslims were observing Friday prayers. Witnesses described scenes of chaos. A Dekara resident, speaking on condition of anonymity, said the terrorists surrounded the mosque shortly after prayers began. “As soon as the imam said ‘Assalamualaikum’, the bandits surrounded the mosque and took people away.” Local residents estimate that more than 60 people were abducted from Dekara Central Mosque alone. In Gbezhin community, no fewer than 100 people remained unaccounted for as of Sunday evening. The terrorists later released a video claiming to hold approximately 500 captives, including women and children, with the sound of children crying audible in the footage.

 

On Saturday, the terrorists issued a warning to surrounding communities, ordering residents to vacate their homes within 30 minutes and threatening: “We will kill anyone we meet when we return.” Those threats appear to have been carried out. A Dekara resident told Daily Trust: “We received information that some of the abducted worshippers have been killed, but we do not know the exact number. Soldiers and vigilantes have moved to recover the bodies, but all routes accessible to security personnel have been planted with improvised explosive devices.” The Niger State chapter of the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN), through its chairman, Bishop Bulus Dauwa Yohanna, confirmed that approximately 30 worshippers who attempted to flee were shot dead by the gunmen. This figure corresponds with reporting by NPO Reports.

 

The continuing violence and execution threats have triggered mass displacement. Resident Usman Musa told journalists that more than 200 residents from Gbezin had fled to neighbouring Benin Republic for safety. Another resident added that approximately 230 residents from Gidan-Zana and Sabon-Gida were taking refuge in Gawungi, inside Benin, while others had fled to Kwara State to stay with relatives.

 

Among those abducted are several prominent community figures. According to Ismaila Yahaya, the 90-year-old village head of Ka’ada was among those taken. He is the biological father of the District Head of Dekara and had only recently been released from a previous kidnapping. The violence in Borgu Emirate has not been confined to the mosque attacks. The Niger State Government confirmed that Alhaji Ahmed Yusuf, the village head of Galla, was killed by armed men at his residence. Governor Mohammed Umaru Bago expressed condolences, describing the killing as evidence of the bandits’ “extreme arrogance”.

 

Amid the escalating crisis, Inspector-General of Police Olatunji Disu visited Niger State on Saturday, 29 August, meeting with Deputy Governor Yakubu Garba at the Government House in Minna. He conveyed his condolences to the families of the victims and pledged that “the safe rescue of the kidnapped victims and bringing the perpetrators to justice remains the focus of current operations”. Disu has ordered the deployment of elite reinforcements to Niger State, including counter-terrorism units, tactical squads and the police air wing. Assistant Inspector-General of Police Victor Olaiya of Zone 7 has been dispatched to coordinate rescue efforts. Addressing officers at the Niger State Police Command, the Inspector-General said: “Nigerians are watching to see the police do what is right. I am not here for ceremony, but to bring a strong message of support to officers and soldiers working under difficult conditions.”

 

The Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA) described the attacks as “heinous and barbaric”, calling on the Federal Government to “move beyond sporadic rescue operations” and establish a permanent, intelligence-driven and community-centred security architecture. The Christian Association of Nigeria’s Niger State chapter urged the government to provide adequate security at places of worship nationwide, stressing that “an attack on any place of worship is an attack on the sanctity of worship and a threat to the wider community”. Amnesty International also urged Nigerian authorities to secure the safe release of the abducted worshippers, noting that at least 1,100 people were abducted in the country between January and April 2026, with the actual figure likely to be far higher.

 

As of press time, the Niger State Government said it had not received any contact or demands from the kidnappers. Information Commissioner Obed Nuhu, speaking in a television interview, said the attacks were suspected to have been carried out by Lakurawa and Boko Haram elements, though the exact number of victims remained unverified.

 

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Kano Police Trace 12 Stolen Vehicles, Arrest 10 Suspects

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Kano Police Trace 12 Stolen Vehicles, Arrest 10 Suspects

The Kano State Police Command has arrested 10 suspected members of an alleged interstate car theft syndicate and recovered 12 vehicles linked to the group.

Commissioner of Police Ibrahim Adamu Bakori disclosed this on Wednesday during a briefing at the Tarauni Area Command.

According to him, five suspects were first arrested in Adamawa on September 7, leading to the recovery of a Mercedes-Benz GLK 350. Further investigation resulted in the recovery of 10 additional vehicles from Kano and neighbouring states.

Five more suspects were arrested on September 12 at Kwankwasiyya City Quarters, Tarauni, where police allegedly recovered a stolen Toyota Hilux.

Bakori said preliminary findings showed that the suspects allegedly operated across Kano, Katsina, Bauchi, Gombe and other states. He said the group allegedly stole vehicles, hid them at different locations and moved them across state borders for resale.

The commissioner noted that 11 of the 12 recovered vehicles were unregistered, making it difficult to trace their owners.

He urged vehicle owners to register their vehicles and display valid number plates, while warning that unregistered vehicles could make criminal investigations more difficult.

Bakori said investigations were ongoing and efforts were underway to arrest other suspected members of the syndicate.

 

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Osun Govt Vows to Prosecute Those Behind Recent Killings

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Osun Govt Vows to Prosecute Those Behind Recent Killings

The Osun State Government has vowed to prosecute anyone found responsible for the recent killings and violent clashes across the state.

The government also denied allegations that it was protecting those suspected of killing Olalekan Oyeyemi amid a leadership dispute in the state chapter of the National Union of Road Transport Workers (NURTW).

Speaking on Wednesday, the Special Adviser to Governor Ademola Adeleke on Security Matters, Samuel Ojo, said the administration would allow security agencies to investigate the cases without interference.

 Adeleke Summons Security Chiefs

Following the recent violence, Adeleke called an emergency security meeting attended by commanders from the police, DSS, Army, NDLEA, Immigration, Correctional Service, Civil Defence and Amotekun.

Deputy Governor Kola Adewusi represented the governor at the meeting.

Ojo said the security chiefs agreed to intensify efforts to stop further killings and restore peace across Osun.

He also dismissed claims that the government was shielding suspects in Oyeyemi’s murder, saying the police and DSS had been directed to thoroughly investigate the case.

Meanwhile, two NURTW leaders, Gbedegesin and Kareem Akeem, had alleged that Oyeyemi was killed because some union leaders opposed his proposed emergence as the next state chairman.

Transportation Commissioner Sesan Oyedele, however, denied that the government endorsed Oyeyemi for the position. He said the union leaders only informed him of their decision to choose the deceased.

About five people have reportedly been killed between August 24 and September 15 in Ikire, Ile-Ife and Osogbo in incidents linked to motor park disputes and alleged cult-related clashes.

 

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