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My boss slept with my wife, her sister and their mother
My boss slept with my wife, her sister and their mother
I’m not sure I truly want to tell this story.
Every time I think about it, something in me starts to spiral.
My mind begins to churn, everything all at once.
I search for understanding, hoping to grasp what drives a man to do certain things. But I come up blank.
And in that void, I feel like I’m losing my grip.
The chaos I’m talking about, the trouble it might’ve stayed hidden, it might’ve never surfaced if I hadn’t gone drinking with some friends.
We were just passing time. Laughing, toasting and ranting until one of them, drunk and loose-lipped, let something slip.
I thought it was the babble of a man too far gone. Turns out, it was the truth. The kind of truth that rearranges your life. You want me to start from the beginning?
Where is the beginning, exactly? I don’t know. But maybe if I keep talking, you’ll be able to find it for me.
Caught stealing
So, yes, I was caught stealing. I’m not proud of it. It’s a chapter I carry with shame.
But I was young. Hungry. And hopeless. My friends convinced me to join them on a warehouse job.
The plan was reckless: we’d blend in with the hired off-loaders while goods were being moved, get ourselves locked inside, and then sneak out at midnight with as much as we could carry.
It sounded brilliant at the time. We pulled it off, got inside, fooled everyone. We got locked in, just as planned.
But the part they didn’t tell me? There were dogs. Fierce, trained ones. And night guards. Real ones. Not the sleepy kind.
We couldn’t get out.
The dogs barked like they were announcing our sins to heaven, all night long.
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By morning, the guards found us and held us—not for the police, but for their boss. The one they called ‘Chairman.’
They wanted him to see us first.
And that’s when everything changed.
Chairman arrived mid-morning, flanked by two senior staff and the kind of quiet authority that makes grown men straighten their backs. We were lined up like cattle—myself and the two other boys who’d been caught—and I was bracing myself to be marched straight to the police.
But Chairman didn’t yell.
He simply looked at us and asked, “Why steal when you could work?” I was stunned.
Nobody talks to a thief like that. But I told him the truth: I was a driver, had lost my job, and was desperate.
He paused, looked me in the eye, then turned to the guards. “Let him drive for us. And give his friends offloading work,” he said.
Rescued
Just like that, we were rescued. Not punished. Given a second chance.
And from that moment, Chairman became something close to sacred in my life.
If he hadn’t stepped in, I might have ended up in jail or worse. You don’t forget people who pull you from the pit.
I worked with him for almost five years: First as a truck driver, moving goods across Nigeria from company to warehouse.
Then, after his personal driver died in a car accident, I took over that role. I became his shadow. Wherever Chairman went, I followed.
And I never forgot what he did for me. I was loyal. Fiercely so.
Now Chairman had a ‘woman friend’ everyone knew about her. Her name was Alhaja.
And though Chairman was married, his relationship with Alhaja went beyond business.
She was one of our suppliers, handled contracts, and frequently involved Chairman in her deals.
As his driver, I often took him to discreet guesthouses.
He and Alhaja would go in, stay a few hours, and emerge separately—each stepping into their own car like nothing happened.
We never spoke of it. Chairman never said a word about her, and I never asked.
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I kept my eyes front, stayed in my lane. Her driver and I would sometimes park beside each other, silent, waiting for our bosses to finish whatever business they were conducting. Then, one day, I saw her daughter. Muyi.
She was familiar.
Turned out, we went to CMS Grammar School together. I hadn’t seen her in years.
We reconnected. Laughs turned to calls. Calls turned into meet-ups. Before long, we were seeing each other.
Secretly.
Marrying daughter
Months in, I asked Chairman himself if he’d speak to Alhaja on my behalf. I wanted to marry her daughter. And that, right there, is where the next chapter begins. I knew my place. I was a driver. Muyi was the daughter of Alhaja, my Chairman’s woman friend.
It would’ve been considered out of line for someone like me to even speak to her romantically.
But Muyi wasn’t the type to shy away from what she wanted. And what she wanted, apparently… was me.
We didn’t even court for long. She got pregnant. And you can’t hide pregnancy.
So, I went to Chairman.
I told him, “Sir, this is the situation… Please help me speak to Alhaja. I want to marry her daughter.”
Everything happened quickly. Pa pa pa. We did the nikkai. Muyi became my wife officially.
Then, one evening after a long day driving Chairman around, I decided not to go straight home. I stopped at a joint with some colleagues from work. It was my usual thing, order pepper soup, take it home to Muyi. She was pregnant and often craved spicy soups.
I asked the service girl to prepare it, but she was slow. And I, three bottles in, was loud. “Abeg, hurry up. My wife is pregnant. I’m taking this home to her.”
Chairman’s head
That’s when my friend, equally drunk, laughed and said, “The baby will have Chairman’s head. The rest of the body will be yours.”
I froze.
“What did you say?” I asked.
He repeated it, casually.
I lost it. I lunged at him. We fought. We were separated, but what he said, that sentence, became the turning point for me.
When I got home, I told Muyi what had happened. I expected her to wave it off, maybe say drunk people talk nonsense. But she said nothing.
Nothing.
That silence lit a fire between us. Quarrels followed. I couldn’t shake the feeling, especially knowing her mother and Chairman were involved. When I confronted her about that, she claimed she didn’t know.
How could she not know?
Everyone knew.
Then much later, too late, she confessed.
Her mother had introduced her to Chairman. He had slept with her. And with her older sister, Aiyi.
She said it was before we met. Before we met, she said. As if that would clean the stain. Tell me. What kind of man sleeps with a mother and both of her daughters?
I was sick. I didn’t know what to do with myself.
And remember, I am still Chairman’s personal driver. Every time he asked after my wife, I wondered: Was he picturing her naked? Was he recalling what they did?
I was spiraling.
But what could I do? Leave my job—and go back to what? Back to stealing?
Leave my wife, and say what? That her past poisoned our present? I’m stuck.
I still don’t know what to do and a part of me thinks our new baby may not be mine.
My boss slept with my wife, her sister and their mother
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OpenAI Discloses Six Model Failures, Backing Industry Push to Slow Down AI Expansion
OpenAI Discloses Six Model Failures, Backing Industry Push to Slow Down AI Expansion
The tech company pledges public tracking for safety breaches after testing models bypass containment, invent citations, and suggest data fabrication.
Artificial intelligence company OpenAI has introduced a public incident-reporting framework, disclosing six previously confidential cases of model misbehaviour while endorsing a broader industry effort to moderate the pace of frontier development.
The company released the findings on Wednesday, stating that developers must allow independent researchers to inspect safety evaluations rather than rely solely on internal industry assurances.
Consequently, the new reporting protocol will document unauthorized actions, containment breaches, and spontaneous coordination between systems across all stages of development and public rollout.
Among the newly disclosed incidents, engineers documented a scenario in which two separate models spontaneously bypassed security guardrails in testing, reached the open web, and accessed outside websites.
In another incident dating to May, an experimental model authored an online post and subsequently cited its own fabricated webpage as factual evidence. During another test that same month, a system suggested methods to invent missing information and conceal its operational mistakes from evaluators.
Meanwhile, OpenAI Chief Executive Sam Altman joined competing technology leaders, including Google DeepMind President Demis Hassabis, Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella, and SpaceX AI head Elon Musk in endorsing Anthropic CEO Dario Amodei’s call for a coordinated slowdown in technology releases.
Furthermore, OpenAI acknowledged that the sector has not yet developed adequate safety monitoring tools to justify unrestrained, rapid scaling. By sharing these system errors directly with the public, the company aims to support global regulators and academic experts working to establish transparent, enforceable safety baselines.
OpenAI Discloses Six Model Failures, Backing Industry Push to Slow Down AI Expansion
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Lagos Records 33,009 Domestic Violence Cases Amid Economic Hardship
Lagos Records 33,009 Domestic Violence Cases Amid Economic Hardship
From the kitchen to the bedroom, violence has moved into every corner of Lagos homes. Arguments over money, infidelity, and stress are no longer ending in slammed doors – they are ending in fisticuffs, hospital visits, and sometimes death.
LAGOS – The kitchen is no longer the only place getting hot in Lagos homes; every room is on fire. Marriage is supposed to be about partnership, but in 2026, for a growing number of Lagos couples, it is about who throws the first punch. She threw the plate. He threw the first punch. By morning, the marriage of five years had two black eyes and a broken dining table. Across apartments in Alimosho, Surulere, Ikorodu, and Lekki, arguments over money, stress, and infidelity are no longer ending in slammed doors. They are ending in fisticuffs. Husbands and wives, once partners, are now throwing punches. And as violence tears Lagos homes apart, what used to be whispered as “marital issues” is now spilling into hospitals, police stations, and the streets.
Between September 2021 and July 2026, the Lagos State Government recorded 33,009 cases of domestic and sexual violence, with an average of over 450 complaints monthly. The figure, disclosed by Attorney-General and Commissioner for Justice Lawal Pedro, SAN, at a media parley marking the 2026 Domestic and Sexual Violence Awareness Month, comprised cases reported through physical walk-ins and the Virtual Referral and Response Service. According to the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency (DSVA), the cases included 13,515 incidents of domestic violence, 1,171 cases of defilement, 797 cases of child abuse and physical assault, 420 rape cases, 428 cases of sexual harassment, and 100 cases of sexual assault by penetration. The agency also recorded 95 cases of technology-facilitated sexual and gender-based violence, 323 threats to life, 79 attempted rape cases, and 1,861 family-related disputes involving custody, neglect, abduction, and child labour.
One of the most disturbing findings was that 10,613 children suffered emotional abuse as a result of exposure to domestic violence in their homes. “These children may not have been direct targets of the violence, but exposure to violence can leave deep emotional scars,” Pedro said, stressing that the government’s response must extend beyond addressing individual incidents to supporting the psychological well-being of those affected. DSVA Executive Secretary, Titilola Vivour-Adeniyi, fingered economic pressure, mental health strain, and a culture of silence as top culprits, turning domestic disputes into full-blown fights. In 2026, “till death do us part” is taking on a more literal meaning for too many couples, she said.
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Domestic and sexual violence extends far beyond physical violence to include emotional, verbal, and financial abuse. From arguments over school fees to late nights and WhatsApp messages, violence has moved from the street into the bedroom. Counsellors, police, and survivors say the pattern is clear: Lagos homes are tearing apart, one fight at a time. The question is, what broke first: the home or the people in it? Among adults, domestic violence accounted for 75.5 per cent of reported assaults, followed by failure to provide necessaries at 9.1 per cent, sexual harassment and rape at 2.4 per cent each, cyber harassment at 0.7 per cent, threats to life at 0.6 per cent, sexual assault by penetration at 0.4 per cent, and attempted rape at 0.3 per cent. Among children, the situation was even more striking, with emotional abuse accounting for 82.3 per cent of reported cases, defilement representing 8.2 per cent, and physical assault or child abuse accounting for 6.6 per cent. Vivour-Adeniyi clarified that domestic violence is not limited to physical abuse, noting that emotional and verbal abuse are equally recognised under Lagos State law and should not be treated as less serious. She further warned parents against concealing sexual abuse cases involving their children, stating that doing so is a punishable offence under the law, with parents found guilty of covering up such crimes risking up to three years in prison.
Official demographic data showed that adult women continue to bear the primary brunt of abuse, representing approximately 88 to 90 per cent of reporting survivors, compared to roughly 10 to 12 per cent male reporters. The DSVA has handled approximately 700 cases involving male victims of domestic abuse over the past year, highlighting that violence in Lagos homes cuts across gender lines. Vivour-Adeniyi disclosed that the agency now receives over 450 domestic violence-related complaints monthly through its hotlines, social media platforms, and online channels. She noted that between 400 and 450 fresh cases are recorded monthly, while stressing that domestic and sexual violence remain heavily underreported despite the increasing number of complaints. The data also revealed troubling patterns: 30 per cent of women who reported abuse said they were pregnant when the abuse occurred, while 35 per cent of survivors reported that the abuse occurred within the first five years of marriage. Pedro said DSVA’s analysis showed that at least 35 per cent of survivors who reported domestic violence experienced it within the first five years of marriage, while seven per cent made reports after more than 10 years of marriage.
The local government areas consistently generating the highest number of reported spousal and adult domestic abuse cases include Alimosho, Ikorodu, Eti-Osa, Kosofe, Ikeja, and Oshodi-Isolo. For children, the leading LGAs were Alimosho, Eti-Osa, Ikorodu, Kosofe, and Ifako-Ijaiye. The state government, however, cautioned that a high number of reports from an area should not automatically be interpreted to mean violence is more prevalent there. Rather, reporting figures can also reflect awareness, willingness to report, access to support services, and proximity to response agencies.
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The psychological consequences among survivors are significant, with 90 per cent reporting experiences including low self-esteem, post-traumatic stress disorder, extreme fear and anxiety, while about five per cent experienced depression severe enough to require medical attention. The DSVA also noted a link between domestic violence and mental health concerns, with 10 per cent of survivors reporting that their alleged abusers had diagnosed mental health conditions.
The Lagos State Government has secured over 160 court convictions against perpetrators of sexual and gender-based violence in the last year, with more than 711 cases formally charged to court. The state also financially supported the investigation and prosecution of 464 SGBV-related cases and obtained 20 restraining orders under the Lagos State Protection Against Domestic Violence Law. In a significant legal clarification, the Lagos State Government has warned married men against forcing their wives into sexual relations without consent, stressing that perpetrators could face prosecution under the state’s criminal law. Director of Public Prosecutions in the Lagos State Ministry of Justice, Dr Babajide Martins, explained that while federal law does not recognise forced sexual intercourse between spouses as marital rape, Lagos State law contains provisions under which a husband could be prosecuted for sexual assault by penetration, an offence that carries a maximum sentence of life imprisonment. Martins stressed that marriage does not give a husband the right to force his wife into sexual relations, particularly when she has expressly refused. “Any man who feels that because he paid his wife’s dowry, nobody can challenge him for domestic violence, the wife should report such a man to the Domestic and Sexual Violence Agency,” he said.
Complementing the state government’s drive to curb the menace, the Ikeja Local Government has championed a sensitisation campaign and walk through the streets aimed at raising awareness and promoting peaceful homes across the council area. The exercise, which was held last Wednesday, was organised by the Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, WAPA, and led by council officials and community stakeholders. Participants displayed placards bearing various inscriptions, such as “Say No to Domestic Violence” and “Ikeja Says No to Domestic Violence,” as they called on the public to speak up against all forms of abuse. The exercise also focused on healthy communication, mutual respect, and peaceful conflict resolution, with residents urged to report cases of abuse while supporting victims and witnesses in accessing help promptly. Ikeja Local Government reaffirmed its commitment to building a community where residents can live free from violence, intimidation, and abuse.
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A quiet community in Ifo Local Government Area of Ogun State was left in shock after a Celestial Church pastor killed his wife during a domestic argument before later dying on the Lagos-Abeokuta Expressway. The incident happened in the early hours of Monday, August 31, at Ogooluwa community, Akiode Ibogun. The pastor, identified as Bidemi Odukoya, was the Shepherd of Iri Orun Parish of the Celestial Church of Christ, which he reportedly ran with his wife. According to accounts from residents, the couple had an argument around 2 a.m. Odukoya allegedly attacked his wife with a machete and a wooden stool, causing fatal injuries. After the attack, the father of three boys reportedly left the community and headed towards Coker Junction, along the Ifo section of the Lagos-Abeokuta Expressway. According to reports, Odukoya had allegedly accused his wife of having an affair, and there were also claims within the community that the pastor himself was involved with another woman. Their 14-year-old son, Daniel, raised the alarm after his father attacked his mother, attracting neighbours who rushed to the residence, where they reportedly found the woman lying lifeless with severe injuries to her head. After fleeing the scene, Odukoya was reportedly seen crossing the expressway several times before eventually sitting on the median. He subsequently moved into the path of an approaching truck and was struck by the vehicle. The incident has thrown the community into shock, particularly because of the history of domestic disputes involving the couple, with residents also concerned about the welfare of their three children following the deaths of both parents.
The reported cases showed a year-by-year increase from 1,075 between September and December 2021 to 5,929 in 2022, 6,389 in 2023, 7,882 in 2024, before declining to 7,721 in 2025 and 4,013 as of July 2026. The figures show a 23.6 per cent decline in reported cases between the two consecutive years under review. However, Pedro cautioned against interpreting the reduction in reported cases as an equivalent reduction in the prevalence of sexual and gender-based violence across Lagos. “A reduction in reported cases does not automatically mean that sexual and gender-based violence has reduced by exactly the same proportion across Lagos State,” he said, explaining that reporting figures could be influenced by awareness levels, reporting behaviour, access to services, and changes in the channels through which survivors sought assistance. “Our ambition is not simply to see fewer cases appearing on our database. Our ambition is to see fewer people experiencing violence in the first place,” Pedro said. The state has provided free legal support to 175 survivors, accommodated 40 survivors at Eko Haven and other safe shelters, and provided psychotherapy and counselling to 953 survivors, 267 alleged perpetrators, and 304 children through its Clinical Psychology Department. The DSVA also carried out 501 rescue operations and extended services to 46 persons with disabilities experiencing various forms of gender-based violence.
For now, as counsellors, police, and survivors confirm, the pattern is clear: Lagos homes are tearing apart, one fight at a time. The question remains: what broke first – the home or the people in it?
Lagos Records 33,009 Domestic Violence Cases Amid Economic Hardship
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Silenced No More: A Survivor’s Story of Abuse by His Mother
Silenced No More: A Survivor’s Story of Abuse by His Mother
People rarely talk about women abusing their sons. What society hears more often are stories of fathers abusing their daughters.
Both are horrific, both leave deep psychological wounds, and both are often met with silence or disbelief. Too often, the victims, not the perpetrators, are the ones shamed to silence.
My story is no different but I have decided not to remain silent.
The people I trusted to love, nurture, and protect me were the ones who harmed me. For many years, I lived with shame, worthlessness, and thoughts of ending my life. I felt like a mirror shattered into pieces. Therapy helped me gather some of those pieces, but I know I will never be completely whole.
Shock
When I told you that my mother sexually abused me, you were shocked. I understand. That reaction, disbelief, confusion, is exactly what my mother counted on. It is almost unthinkable to say, even more unthinkable to report, that your own mother abused you.
As a child, I didn’t even have the language to understand what was happening. I didn’t know the word “incest.” I only knew that what she did was wrong. She didn’t need to make me swear to keep it secret, the beatings were enough. She beat me so severely at times that I fainted.
You asked if she was my biological mother. Yes. She was.
I was her fifth and last child.
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How did it begin?
My earliest memories place it around age five, though the physical abuse started even earlier. As a toddler, whenever I tried to hug her, she would hit me so hard I would run away crying and hide in another room. Yet to the outside world, she appeared to be a good mother; she cooked, cleaned, and walked me to school. I envied other children who spoke lovingly about their mums. I never had that.
When she began climbing into my bed, I was terrified. She would lie beside me naked and ask me to touch her. As a child desperate for affection and terrified of her anger, I obeyed. I thought that maybe, if I did what she wanted, she would stop beating me, stop belittling me, stop crushing my confidence.
Dad afraid too
I could not tell my father. He was afraid of her too. He never caught her in the act, and I knew he wouldn’t believe me even if I told him…several years ago when I was in my 40s and I told him about it, he did not believe me. He always took mother’s side, even when she beat me for the smallest things. He never protected me.
The abuse continued from age five until I was 14. By then, I had grown physically strong enough to shout at her to leave me alone.
Silenced No More: A Survivor’s Story of Abuse by His Mother
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