Actress Jayesimi blames mother for childlessness at 60
Renowned Yoruba Nollywood actress, Dupe Jayesimi, has shared the painful journey of her childlessness at over 60, revealing years of heartbreak, betrayal, and unfulfilled dreams of motherhood.
In an emotional conversation on Abiola Adebayo’s Talk-to-B podcast, Jayesimi recalled how she battled multiple miscarriages, a turbulent marriage, and society’s harsh judgment, all while carrying the weight of longing for a child.
Jayesimi, who tied the knot on October 22, 1988, said her struggle with infertility began shortly after her wedding.
Though she conceived before the marriage, she suffered a miscarriage soon after, marking the start of an agonising journey.
“We had too many tests, with several attempts to conceive,” she recalled. “My husband and I had misunderstandings, and five years into the marriage, he stopped checking on me for months. He began using a pillow to demarcate the bed, slowly pushing me out of the marriage.”
The veteran actress revealed that her husband ultimately forced her out, and just two weeks after she left, another woman—already pregnant—moved into their home.
“I resorted to taking alcohol and sobbing for years,” she confessed. “I had to move on when the pain became unbearable.”
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Following the failed marriage, Jayesimi attempted to find love again, hoping it would lead to motherhood.
She met an Alhaji who was eager to help her conceive, but even after two rounds of IVF, she was left with nothing but disappointment.
“One day, I conceived without even knowing,” she recounted. “I was 40 years old at the time. But when I went to the hospital, the doctor told me it was an ectopic pregnancy. I cried my heart out.”
After the painful loss, she eventually left the relationship when the man’s wife started waging war against her.
In her desperation, Jayesimi once considered adoption, but her mother vehemently opposed the idea.
“If you adopt any kid, I will feed them to death,” she recalled her mother’s chilling words. “It was then I knew I was in for a long ride.”
Now, looking back with regret, the actress blames her mother for robbing her of the chance to be a mother.
“If I had not listened to my mum, I would have adopted a long time ago,” she lamented. “I am not fighting her, but I want her to stay clear of me because she’s the cause of my childlessness.”
Despite the pain, Jayesimi remains resilient. She shared how she has been mocked—even by the children she helped raise.
“This acting job is just a blessing in disguise,” she admitted. “It has helped me sustain the watered ground of mockery.”
At 60, the actress now seeks one final chance at motherhood—not through marriage, not through failed treatments, but through adoption.
“What I want to do now is get a child who will be my company,” she declared.
Actress Jayesimi blames mother for childlessness at 60