Scholars proffer solutions to marital crisis

Chief Imam of Lekki Central Mosque, Imam Ridwan Jamiu

Scholars proffer solutions to marital crisis

Scholars have attributed the collapse of family to societal challenges.

According to them, the solution is to halt the spate of broken homes and return the family values.

They spoke on Sunday during the first quarter Dawah Workshop organised by Lekki Muslim Ummah (LEMU), with a theme: “Towards Happy Marriage” at Lekki Central Mosque, Lekki.

Earlier in his remarks, the Chief Imam of Lekki Central Mosque, Imam Ridwan Jamiu said moral decadence in the society has led to corruption in high places, collapse of family structure, drugs among children and unhealthy society.

He said: “The family is a unit of the society, if family is sound and healthy, the community will be sound and healthy, and if family is unhealthy, the community will be unhealthy and this will affect the nation. This is why whenever we have any gathering like this, we are actually promoting peace and national security.

“Many of the society’s challenges came as a result of the collapse of the family. If you see some children who have taken to drugs, it is because the family has collapsed. There can hardly be successful parenting without successful coupling.

“Some of the reasons parents abandon their children at the mercy of the society is lack of faith even in the face of challenges. For instance, If you truly fear Allah, you wouldn’t go into crime as a solution to your economic challenges. You have to look for other lawful means of seeking wealth. But because there is lack of faith or better still, a spiritual decline, many people are very religious, but are not Godly. Some people go to places of worship only because they are looking for jobs and appointments.”

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Dr Rashidah Oke-Olaniyan of Daarussalam Taafidh International Academy, reminded parents of their position as role models, adding that they should think more about the future of their children.

She said: “Parents should know they are role models. The future of the children is important as well as their Hereafter.

“Think about the children all the time. When the home is broken, there is no way the woman can be the mother and the father at the same time. It is difficult. Go and ask the kids out there, they will tell you, I need to see my Mum, I need to see my Dad. In fact, when there is no father figure in the home, you see the child going out to look for a father figure that may not be right for him or her. If you don’t want society to teach your child, you have to be there to teach your child and by extension, you have to make your marriage work.”

A professor of Anatomic Pathology at the College of Medicine University of Lagos (CMUL) Prof Fatimah AbdulKareem and Chief Imam of Light House Muslim Community, Imam Nojeem Jimoh, said it is the intention of Allah for couples to be happy in their marriages.

Allah, the duo added that the primary thing Allah intends for the couple.

Prof AbdulKareem told the audience that good character and piety are main features to look out for in a prospectus relations.

Imam Jimoh urged the couples to fear in dealing with one another.

“It is sad to know there are lots of broken homes and marriages, but it is because many of us have gone away from the prescriptions of Allah as far as marriage is concerned. You find husbands and wives competing rather than complementing and cooperating. Allah has not forbidden the women to assist in putting food on the table,” he said.

Chairman on the occasion, Alhaji AbdulMajeed Ninalowo said the topic was chosen with a view to providing solutions to the growing marital challenges plaguing the Muslim Ummah in particular, and the world in general.

According to him, “such marital upheavals include high divorce rate, spousal abuse, unbridled adultery resulting in alarming rate of paternity fraud, baby mama and baby father syndrome, to mention but a few. Undoubtedly, the marriage institution is no longer what it used to be. Many couples, especially young ones, are not happily married,” he said.