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13 ways to connect body-to-body, heart-to-heart
I came across this well-written and hugely beneficial article and I felt that I should make it available to my readers. It is an excerpt from a book, ‘The Five S3x Needs of Men and Women,’ by Gary and Barbara Rosberg. Please enjoy it.
Can you believe that a couple can achieve 100% of s3xual satisfaction if they so wish? During an interview with Christian s3x therapists, Clifford and Joyce Penner, e-Harmony founder Neil Clark Warren asked, “what percentage of couples can attain a mutually satisfying s3xual relationship?” The Penners respond, “attaining a high level of s3xual satisfaction with each other.”
Couples often ask us how they can keep the excitement in s3x. Our answer: Stay connected. Being connected body-to-body and heart-to-heart is what makes s3x fulfilling and fun. Here are 13 ways you and your spouse can have more passion.
Do you remember the kind of kissing you did when you first fell in love? Do you still kiss that deeply and passionately? Rediscover passionate kissing. Take your time. Enjoy the touch and taste of each other’s lips. The burning sensation is terrific.
Laze around in the afterglow
Delight in the closeness you feel after having s3x. Stay in each other’s arms. Tell your spouse how good it felt and how much you love him or her. This is one of the most intimate as a couple.
Become a scholar of your partner’s s3xual zones
Seven erogenous zones have become a hot cake. They are the nipples of both spouses, the breast of your spouse, the earlobes of both spouses, the groin of both spouses, the penis and scrotum of the man, the vulva of the woman, the clitoris of the woman, the not-open-to-discussion ‘G spot’ of the woman. Even if no other places responded to your touches, these once are ever-ready-to-stimulation-sure-spots. A woman has more erogenous zones than just her breasts and vagina. Explore with her, and discover where she is most responsive. Kiss, stroke, or caress each body part. Ask: “How does this feel? Does it make you tingle? What would make you feel even ‘tinglier’ – if I caressed less or more?” Remember that although it is good to work toward a climax, the journey is pretty unbelievable too, and highly rewarding.
Appreciate a wife’s definition of satisfaction
“I don’t get it, “a husband told me at a restaurant. “ I do everything I can think of in bed, but my wife doesn’t usually have an orgasm.”
“Does that bother your wife I asked?”
“No. She seems content. I don’t get that either.”
“That’s because many women are still satisfied with s3x, even when they don’t have an orgasm.”
This husband stared blankly at me. “Huh?”
Husbands, if you want to satisfy your wife, shift your definition of satisfaction. Of course, wives love to climax (who does not?), but they can enjoy the lovemaking experience even when they do not reach that place.
Many women enjoy the sensuality of cuddling, kissing, and touching every bit as much as they enjoy the thrill of a climax. Women’s s3xual pleasure occurs on many levels other than simply orgasm.
Know, admit, and value s3xual peaks
Most men reach their s3xual peak in their late teens or early twenties. Most women reach theirs a decade or more later. Often when a woman is in her thirties and forties her s3xual desire becomes stronger, sometimes insatiable. Moreover, as a man ages, his emotional side increases. Through each stage, couples grow and learn more about each other and become more patient and sensitive to each other’s needs. This is God’s blessing to us because it allows a couple’s s3x life greater longevity and duration.
Recognize the different kinds of s3x
So often, couples feel the pressure to have “perfect” s3x – complete with earthquakes, fireworks, and multiple orgasms. It is not every time you have s3x that there will be a “bell ringer”; and that is okay because you are both connecting. Sometimes s3x will be a quickie to meet the need of the moment. Sometimes it could be functional s3x or just s3x. Sometimes, when you are not in the mood, you could have it simply because your spouse needs you at that moment. Sometimes it may be comfort s3x; when life has brought devastation, the only comfort and security you find are in the arms of your spouse as a lover. You will be ahead when you understand that the different kinds of s3x point to the ultimate reason for s3x: the relationship. The goal is not whether you end with a climax. The goal is that you are connected as a couple.
Just make passionate s3x the main kind
Do not rush. In a s3x survey we conducted recently, we asked women what they hated about s3x. Rushed s3x ranked number five. When you have a solid foundation and have spent years growing together and discovering more of s3xual tips, then you would want to have a lot of variety. Nevertheless, a woman who is repeatedly unsatisfied, who senses that her husband’s pleasure always comes before hers, can feel used and empty. She wants to experience the whole spectrum of s3x – the physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational. This is not to say rushed or quickie s3x is wrong. Still, s3x should not be rushed all the time. That would be like eating nothing but fast food. Going through the local fast food drive–through for a chili dog and onion rings every occasionally is not a problem, but your health would suffer if you did it at every meal. Make your goal pleasurable s3x that satisfies both of you.
Communicate what type of s3x you need
If you think you are going to have a quickie and your spouse is expecting a long, passionate encounter, both of you will probably end up frustrated. Clarify your expectations. Women need to prepare mentally for s3x. If a wife knows she is headed for quickie s3x, she can mentally prepare for that, including the realization that she may not climax. Most of the time the woman will still enjoy s3x, even if she does not have the same outcome as her husband.
Become skilled at your spouse’s s3xual triggers
We often joke about his-and-hers triggers. Usually, we say that men have one s3xual trigger: everything. Women are a bit more complex. Though, seriously, because men are more visually stimulated, a man can become aroused by seeing his wife naked, undressing, or wearing something provocative. Typically, women are not that way. Therefore, a husband needs to discover what his wife’s s3xual triggers are.
A wife may be a “touch me” girl: she likes hugs and caresses. She may be a “tell me” girl: she likes affirmation and verbal foreplay. She may be a “listen to me and share with me” girl: she opens up after connecting with her husband through conversation. She may be a “doing” girl: she appreciates it when he picks up messes and helps with housework. She may be a “spiritual food” girl: she becomes open to s3x after connecting with him through prayer, reading Scripture, and discussing spiritual matters.
Practice the fine art of admiration
There is a part of each of us that likes it when our mate is happy with our performance, insight, or advice. We long to hear, “You did a good job,” or “You’ve worked so hard this week; I want to take you out for dinner so you don’t have to cook.” Sincere verbal appreciation motivates us. Overwhelm your spouse with appreciation, and watch s3xual desire increase.
Make each other a priority
Multitudes of s3x therapists and marriage counselors name fatigue as the number one enemy of s3xual intimacy. When couples are worn out, s3x is one of the first things to go. If s3x enters our minds – even fleetingly – we think, “I’d really like to have s3x, but when I do have the time and the energy?”
We can push s3x to the side and claim it is “just for a season.” Yet, pretty soon, that season turns into a pattern. That is when it becomes ingrained in the heart and we become blind to what we are doing. Of all s3xual issues, exhaustion is the one over which we have the most control. How you may ask? By reprioritizing, working less, saying no to outside activities that do not further the marriage, or asking for help. Carve out time each week just to relax and have fun with each other.
Grab your calendars, sit down with your spouse, and talk through your schedules. Ask each other the questions: What is an absolute priority? What feels like an absolute priority but really isn’t ? What can we get rid of, at least for now? What is the best day to set aside as a time for just the two of us to have s3x, to have fun, and enjoy each other? Get yourselves back to remembering, oh yeah! This is really fun!
Say “Why not?”
Give yourself permission to enjoy s3x. Be open to pleasing your lover. Take on a “Why not?” attitude.
Keep practicing enthusiastically!
S3x stirs the craving for more s3x. Lovemaking elevates the brain chemicals associated with desire. Therefore, as we decide to have s3x and find we enjoy our time of lovemaking, our libidos increase, often leading to an increased yearning to have s3x more often. What could be more fun and exciting than that?
QUESTION
Hi, I’ve been having an increasingly hard time sustaining and now even achieving an erection. I’m 28 years old and healthy. I eat right for the most part. I only drink occasionally and don’t do drugs. I do smoke up to half a pack of cigarettes a day and this has been my lifestyle for the past 10 years maybe a little longer. I wanted to know if this is a result of my lifestyle or what. What steps could I take to stop this lack of achieving erection, are there specific foods that I’m not getting enough of that may over time cause this? I would prefer not going on any synthetic pills such as Viagra as I feel as though I’m too young to be in this situation. Thank you
ANSWER
As a s3x therapist and a medical personal I need answers to the following questions When did the symptom start? Are there any other symptoms? Was any test done? Do you have morning erections?
Client Reply
It started sometime last September and I noticed that I was stressed from work, no other symptoms that I know of. For the most part, I’m as healthy as an ox. No tests have been done. I write to you to get an expert’s opinion when dealing with things of a serious nature. I have an erection maybe once or twice a week in the morning, but recently opposite nude bodies do not trigger anything from me.
FINAL ANSWER
You have to seriously look into the idea of changing your lifestyle, stop smoking, stop drinking, and do not engage in masturbation. You also need to enhance yourself with some of the natural herbs we advertise, these herbs do total overhauling since they are close to nature. In addition, you should practice kegel exercises.
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Fuji Icon Kollington Ayinla Is Alive, Not Dead — Mgt Debunks Death Rumours
Fuji Icon Kollington Ayinla Is Alive, Not Dead — Mgt Debunks Death Rumours
The management of veteran Fuji musician, Kollington Ayinla, also known as Kebe-n-Kwara, has dismissed reports circulating online claiming that the music icon has died, describing the information as false, malicious, and misleading. In a statement issued on Saturday, signed by Shamsudeen Ilori on behalf of the family and the HSKA Foundation, the singer’s organisation said the reports of Ayinla’s death were fabricated by individuals seeking attention and online traffic. “Our attention has been drawn to a malicious and unfounded rumor circulating all over the Internet claiming that Kollington Ayinla Fuji Authority has passed away,” the statement read. The management stressed that the veteran artiste remains alive and in good health, adding that the rumour was deliberately designed to cause distress to the musician’s family, fans and associates. “Alhaji Kollington Ayinla is ALIVE, WELL, and IN GOOD HEALTH. Baba is currently enjoying himself, surrounded by family and close associates, and still blessing the world with his unmatched Fuji music dexterity and wisdom,” the statement added.
Describing the report as the handiwork of “heartless people,” the management accused those behind the claim of attempting to disrespect a living legend and create unnecessary confusion. The organisation also warned social media users and content creators against spreading unverified information, urging the public to verify claims before sharing them, threatening legal action against anyone found to have originated or deliberately circulated the false report. “Spreading false death news is not content — it’s wickedness. The family, management, and legal team of Alhaji Kollington Ayinla will not let this slide. Anyone caught creating or spreading this falsehood will face the full wrath of the law,” it stated. Reassuring supporters across the world, the organisation urged fans, friends, and family members to disregard the rumour entirely, saying the Fuji star remains healthy and appreciative of the goodwill shown towards him.
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This is not the first time the Fuji legend has been plagued by false death reports. In January 2024, Kollington Ayinla was forced to address similar rumours after speculation about his health circulated widely on social media. At the time, the 74-year-old musician released a video from the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH), where he was receiving treatment, to prove he was alive and recovering. “It is only God that can save a person but they really tried for me because I could have died but due to their efforts, I was saved,” the septuagenarian said in the video, expressing gratitude to the hospital management and Lagos State Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu.
Born Abdulrasaq Kolawole Ilori on 20 August 1949, Kollington Ayinla hails from Ilota, a town on the outskirts of Ilorin, Kwara State. He ranks alongside his late friend and competitor, Sikiru Ayinde Barrister, as one of the two most important artists to dominate Fuji music from its inception in the 1970s through to the 1990s. Kollington began recording for Nigerian EMI in 1974 and achieved a pronounced lead over Barrister in 1978 when he introduced the powerful bata drum into his sound, a departure from the talking drums that Fuji had relied upon until that time. In 1982, he set up his own label, Kollington Records, through which he released no less than 30 albums over the next five years. To date, he has recorded more than 100 albums and remains one of the most prolific artists in Nigerian music history. The rivalry between Kollington and Barrister was legendary, but the two eventually reconciled before Barrister’s death. Kollington was also involved in a public feud with “Queen of Waka” star Salawa Abeni, whom he married and had three children with, including popular rapper Big Sheff.
Fuji Icon Kollington Ayinla Is Alive, Not Dead — Mgt Debunks Death Rumours
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Tems Apologises After Nervous Mix-Up at Obama Presidential Centre Ceremony
Tems Apologises After Nervous Mix-Up at Obama Presidential Centre Ceremony
Nigerian Grammy-winning singer Tems has apologised after accidentally misnaming Barack Obama’s daughters during the official dedication of the $850 million Obama Presidential Centre in Chicago, admitting she was overwhelmed by nerves on the global stage. The 30-year-old Afrobeats sensation, whose real name is Temilade Openiyi, took to social media platform X following the June 18 ceremony to laugh off the moment, writing: “Lord knows I was nervous! Please forgive me!!!” The slip-up occurred as Tems addressed the audience at John Lewis Plaza on the centre’s 19-acre campus, moments before delivering a captivating performance of her hit single “Me & U”. Dressed in a vibrant red gown, she told the crowd: “I am so blessed and honoured to be here… this is you, everyone, here, to Mr and Mrs Obama, to Sandra, and all the family.” The reference to “Sandra” was a clear misstep—the Obamas’ daughters are Malia and Sasha Obama.
Despite the brief error, Tems received a warm reception for her performance at the globally televised ceremony, which featured an extraordinary lineup of music royalty. She shared the stage with Jennifer Hudson, Stevie Wonder, Bruce Springsteen, John Legend, Christina Aguilera, Common, U2’s Bono and The Edge, Marc Anthony, Eddie Vedder, Marsai Martin and The Roots. Jennifer Hudson opened the event with the national anthem, while Christina Aguilera performed Louis Armstrong’s “What a Wonderful World”. John Legend and Common delivered a moving rendition of their Oscar-winning song “Glory”. The ceremony concluded with a powerful group performance of Stevie Wonder’s “Higher Ground” featuring multiple artists. Former U.S. President Barack Obama attended alongside Michelle Obama and daughters Malia and Sasha. Three other living former occupants of the Oval Office were present—Bill Clinton, George W. Bush and Joe Biden—along with their wives. Former vice president Kamala Harris, former House speaker Nancy Pelosi, and international dignitaries including former German chancellor Angela Merkel and former Canadian prime minister Justin Trudeau were also in attendance.
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In his address at the ceremony, Obama called for overcoming divisions within American society, saying: “As unsettled as we are, people aren’t looking for perpetual anger and division. They are looking for fairness and common sense and mutual respect.” He added: “Deep in our gut, we want to find a way to turn towards each other again.”
The $850 million facility, located on Chicago’s South Side, officially opened to the public on June 19—the Juneteenth holiday celebrating the abolition of slavery in the U.S. The 19.3-acre campus features a fully digital presidential museum, a branch of the Chicago Public Library, an NBA-regulation basketball court, a Women’s Garden, and a playground. The centre is expected to attract more than 1 million visitors annually.
Beyond Tems’ performance, Nigerian representation at the centre was further highlighted by a portrait from Nigerian-born artist Njideka Akunyili Crosby, which is featured in the centre’s permanent collection. Tems’ invitation to perform underscores the growing influence of African artists on major global stages, marking another milestone in her career defined by artistic excellence and international impact.
The Obama Presidential Centre celebrations began with the dedication ceremony on June 18 and will continue with public activities and community events until June 21. Tickets for the grand opening weekend have already sold out, with thousands of ticketed guests watching the ceremony on a big screen from a nearby park.
Tems Apologises After Nervous Mix-Up at Obama Presidential Centre Ceremony
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Oyo Abduction: Rarara Blasts Davido Over Global “Bring Them Home” Campaign
Oyo Abduction: Rarara Blasts Davido Over Global “Bring Them Home” Campaign
Hausa praise singer Dauda Adamu Kahutu Rarara has criticised Afrobeats star Davido, accusing him of portraying Nigeria negatively on the global stage after drawing international attention to the abduction of schoolchildren and teachers in Oyo State.
The controversy stems from Davido’s appearance at the 2026 FIFA World Cup countdown concert, where he wore a customised jacket inscribed with “Bring Them Home” alongside the names of abducted pupils and teachers from Oyo State. The gesture was widely shared online and sparked mixed reactions across Nigeria’s political and entertainment space.
According to reports, gunmen had attacked three schools in Oriire Local Government Area of Oyo State on May 15, abducting 39 pupils and seven teachers, triggering nationwide concern over worsening insecurity and renewed calls for government intervention.
Reacting in a video posted on his verified Facebook page, Rarara condemned Davido’s action, describing it as “harmful to Nigeria’s image” and inappropriate for a global platform.
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He argued that sensitive national security issues should not be displayed internationally in a manner that could, in his view, damage the country’s reputation.
“I do not usually react to issues like this, but what Davido did was barbaric… How can you promote insecurity-related issues to the whole world?” Rarara said, adding that the move was unnecessary and politically charged.
He also alleged that Davido’s action may have been influenced by political considerations, claiming it was linked to his uncle’s political ambition in Osun State under the Accord Party, though no evidence was provided for the claim.
Rarara further maintained that insecurity should be handled with caution, arguing that public commentary on ongoing security operations could interfere with rescue efforts or negotiations with armed groups.
He claimed, without verification, that the abduction occurred in the context of broader counter-terrorism operations and insisted that “publicity could complicate security responses.”
The singer also criticised what he described as the growing trend of social media activism around insecurity, warning that some online narratives may unintentionally aid criminal groups or distort security operations.
“You cannot go to China or other countries and promote issues the authorities do not want promoted,” he said, insisting that national security matters require discretion.
Davido responded briefly on X (formerly Twitter) by quoting Rarara’s comments and writing “Debidooo,” a phrase widely interpreted as mocking the Hausa pronunciation of his name.
Rarara later replied with a Hausa expression widely interpreted as insulting, escalating the exchange into a public war of words between both entertainers.
Davido also fired back in another post, stating in Hausa: “If only you had knowledge, I would have stopped to speak with you. But you know nothing,” further intensifying the online exchange.
The controversy has since attracted wider commentary from political and public figures, including Reno Omokri, Nigeria’s Ambassador-Designate to Mexico, who previously argued that excessive international attention on terrorist incidents could complicate rescue efforts and benefit perpetrators.
The debate continues to trend on social media, reflecting deeper divisions over celebrity activism, national security messaging, and the role of public figures in highlighting humanitarian crises.
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