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How to turn perceived ‘messy sex’ to great sex, by Tiwa Says

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Yes, sex can be messy, but it is also great fun.

Think of you eating any of our local Nigerian dishes, with your bare hands, the soup running down your hand and you lap it up with your tongue…craving every drop, not wanting any to go to waste…that’s how sweet and messy sex should be.

Yet, unfortunately, sex is seen as a dirty act that should be made clean and controlled Sadly, we have been taught to believe that our genitals and all it entails…from fluids to smells, are things to be ashamed of. This greatly affects our perception and acceptance of our bodies and how we respond sexually.

The truth is that you are not as dirty as you think.

A lot of people are in perpetual fear of smelling or tasting bad to their partners. These fears and disgust are mostly gotten from the myths about odours and bodily functions that produce them.

After normal body hygiene has been taken care of, these body functions are normal and not dirty at all.

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Still, no one wants to be told, they smell bad. It is a big turn off.

Let’s analyse some of these seemingly offensive fluids:

Saliva: also known as spit, is produced in the mouth. It is odourless, except you just ate something that has a strong flavour or you have oral health issues. Saliva is functional sexually in kissing, oral sex, and sometimes as a lubricant.

Sweat: sweat is totally natural — it’s our body’s way of keeping us from getting overheated. Sex can be a workout, but even if you’re having slow and lazy sex, you’ll probably notice a bit of extra perspiration. Still, a lot of people find their partner sweating to be a turn-on

Male pre-ejaculatory fluid: this is secreted in the early stages of arousal. It is also referred to as pre-cum. It is clear and slippery and can be used as lubrication. The smell varies from person to person.

Male ejaculatory fluid: this contains semen and prostatic fluid. It has a distinctive smell and is thicker in texture than the pre-cum.

Female arousal fluid: this is produced as a natural lubricant during sex. It is not the same as normal vaginal discharge. It has little or no odour, although that is determined by the state of the vagina.

Female ejaculatory fluid: like men, women also ejaculate through the urethra. It is a clear fluid that may also contain prostatic fluid. It can also be odourless depending on whatever has passed through the urethra before that time.

Rectal fluid: it is secreted by the mucus membranes of the rectum. It can give some lubrication during anal sex. It has a rather pungent smell.

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Menstrual blood: The menstrual blood is partly blood and partly tissue from inside the uterus. It passes out of the body through the vagina. Having penetrative and non-penetrative intercourse while menstruating is totally fine, as long as you’re comfortable and in the mood. For centuries, women have struggled with shame surrounding both their sensuality and menstruation. There is no biological reason to feel bad about either of these things together or separately. Period sex can be great if you’re open to it. One study even suggested that your comfort level with period sex could have major implications for your sex life overall.

Now that we have identified these fluids, here’s how to deal with them.

a. Use a condom: if you are not sure of what STIs your partner may have, or if it’s other fluids you are uncomfortable about, condoms are always a safe choice. They serve as barriers to keep the risk of fluid STIs to a minimum. This also applies to oral sex.

b. Because of the risk of introducing bacteria from the rectum to the vagina, it is always better to avoid moving from anal sex to other types of sex at the same time. If you must, use a separate condom for each act or save the anal sex for last.

c. There’s nothing wrong in getting dirty for some fun. You can always take a bath afterwards.

Above all, try not to get carried away in controlling what happens during sex sessions, know that there will sometimes be noises, gushes, smells and even blood. Always remember that all these are part of the real and raw human experience. Learning to accept this fact can help you to enjoy sex more fully.

Have a good one.

#tiwa_says.

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Veteran Nollywood Actor Taiwo Hassan ‘Ogogo’ Dies at 66 After Cancer Battle

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Veteran Nollywood Actor Taiwo Hassan ‘Ogogo’ Dies at 66 After Cancer Battle

Veteran Nollywood actor and filmmaker, Taiwo Hassan, popularly known as Ogogo, has died at the age of 66, days after his family publicly disclosed his battle with stage-four cancer.

The actor reportedly died on Sunday, August 23, 2026, following a deterioration in his health. His death was confirmed in reports quoting people close to the actor, while his daughter, Kaira Taiwo, was seen in tears during an Instagram Live session, struggling to come to terms with the development.

The founder of Best of Nollywood, Seun Oloketuyi, also announced the actor’s death in a social media post, writing: “Taiwo Hassan Ogogo is dead. He finally lost the battle of life.”

News of the actor’s death has triggered an outpouring of grief from colleagues, fans and associates across the Nigerian film industry.

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Veteran actor and filmmaker, Saheed Balogun, mourned Hassan in an Instagram post, saying, “Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un. You can rest now my brother Taiwo Hassan Ogogo. May Almighty Allah guide you through Aljannah. This is truly painful.”

The death came barely a week after Ogogo’s daughters, Kaira and Lima Taiwo, made emotional appeals for urgent medical assistance for their father.

The sisters had disclosed that the actor was battling stage-four cancer and appealed to medical professionals, hospitals and others with access to possible treatment options to come to his aid. According to Kaira, doctors had told the family that chemotherapy could no longer be administered because of his condition.

The family’s appeal sparked widespread concern among Nigerians and members of the entertainment industry, with colleagues rallying around the actor and urging the public to continue praying for him.

Before his death, fellow veteran actor Jide Kosoko disclosed that more than 500 people had offered various forms of assistance to Ogogo, as the family and colleagues searched for appropriate treatment options.

Hassan was one of the most recognisable figures in Nigeria’s Yoruba-language film industry, with a career spanning several decades as an actor, filmmaker and producer.

He earned widespread recognition for his distinctive performances in Yoruba films and remained a respected figure in Nollywood throughout his long career.

His death marks the loss of one of the enduring personalities of Nigeria’s indigenous-language cinema.

 

 

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Ronke Oshodi Oke: I Won’t Object If My Husband Marries Second Wife

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Ronke Oshodi Oke: I Won’t Object If My Husband Marries Second Wife

Veteran Nollywood actress Ronke Oshodi Oke has said she would not oppose her husband taking a second wife, provided he has the financial capacity to cater adequately for both families and continues to treat his first wife with respect.

The actress made the disclosure during an interview with Behind The Fame TV, where she spoke about marriage, polygamy and the responsibilities of husbands towards their wives.

According to her, while she would accept her husband’s decision to marry another woman, she would not agree to live under the same roof with the second wife.

She explained that in the event of such a decision, her husband would be expected to provide separate accommodation for the second wife rather than bring her into the home she currently occupies.

“A man has to respect his wife because if he wants to marry a second wife, he should bring her home and introduce her to the first wife properly,” the actress said.

Oshodi Oke maintained that a woman should not necessarily create conflict with her husband simply because he decides to take another wife, particularly when he possesses the financial means to shoulder the responsibilities that come with a larger family.

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“A wise woman should know that there is no big deal if a man marries a second wife, but the only thing is that I can’t stay in the same house together with the second wife,” she said.

The actress stressed that her primary concern would be her husband’s ability to provide for his responsibilities without neglecting his existing family.

“If my husband can take care of the second wife and he has the financial capacity, I see no reason he can’t marry a second wife,” she stated.

She further explained that taking another wife should not be an excuse for a man to abandon or reduce his financial and emotional responsibilities towards his first wife and their children.

“If marrying a second wife will not stop him from giving me money…” she added.

Her comments have drawn attention to the subject of polygamy, a practice that remains part of Nigeria’s social and cultural landscape, particularly in communities where plural marriage is traditionally or religiously recognised.

Oshodi Oke’s position, however, was accompanied by a clear personal boundary: she would accept the marriage but would not share the same residence with the second wife.

The actress also emphasised the importance of respect and proper communication between spouses, suggesting that a husband who chooses to marry another wife should handle the situation in a manner that protects the dignity of his first wife.

Her remarks have since generated discussions among social media users and members of the public, with reactions reflecting differing views on polygamy, financial responsibility, marital respect and the rights and expectations of first wives.

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“We Don’t Want to See You in Edo Again” — Gov Okpebholo’s Aide Declares War on Davido

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"We Don't Want to See You in Edo Again" — Gov Okpebholo's Aide Declares War on Davido
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“We Don’t Want to See You in Edo Again” — Gov Okpebholo’s Aide Declares War on Davido

The Senior Special Assistant on Digital Media to Edo State Governor Monday Okpebholo, Apostle Kassy Chukwu, has declared that Nigerian Afrobeats superstar David Adeleke, popularly known as Davido, is no longer welcome to perform in Edo State for the remainder of the governor’s tenure. The warning comes amid an escalating public feud between the singer and the governor, triggered by Davido’s involvement in the recent Osun State governorship election and his refusal to apologise for mocking the governor’s academic credentials.

Chukwu made the declaration in a video shared on YouTube by Peniel TV International, Benin City, on Thursday, where he announced that Davido had been “banned” from staging performances anywhere in Edo State. “You have been banned from coming to Edo State to perform. We don’t want to see you in Edo again,” Chukwu said in the video. The governor’s aide accused the singer of making disrespectful remarks about Governor Okpebholo and his family, maintaining that Davido would not be welcome in the state for the remaining years of the administration.

Chukwu also claimed that some youths in Edo were angered by Davido’s comments and warned that the singer could face a hostile reception if he returned to the state, including through the airport. “Edo youths are angry. They said if they catch you again, nobody should bring Davido to come and perform in any place again in Edo State,” Chukwu said. In more graphic terms, the aide stated, “If we catch you, if we see you for airports, go tell boys make them use slap take remove your teeth for you.”

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The dispute traces back to the build-up to the August 15 Osun State governorship election, in which Governor Okpebholo, a member of the All Progressives Congress, publicly criticised Osun Governor Ademola Adeleke, Davido’s uncle, while campaigning in the state. Okpebholo had questioned Adeleke’s leadership style, specifically mocking his frequent dancing. “Before somebody signs paper, he will dance. Are you not tired? For four years, this man has been dancing. Before he takes breakfast, before he drinks tea, he will dance,” Okpebholo had said.

Davido, who had been actively involved in his uncle’s re-election campaign, responded by sharing what appeared to be Governor Okpebholo’s West African Examinations Council (WAEC) result on his Instagram Story. The purported result showed several grades, including D7 in Commerce, Economics, English Language and Christian Religious Knowledge, E8 in Government and C5 in Mathematics. The authenticity of the document has not been independently established.

The singer later defended his decision during an interview with News Central, insisting that he had no reason to apologise. “I’m not going to apologise. I didn’t do anything wrong. I was just telling people of the state the results their governor has,” Davido said. He also questioned why Governor Okpebholo had travelled from Edo to Osun to attack his uncle during the election campaign, stating, “First of all, you were not even elected; you were selected. You don’t know what it means to win an election.” Davido further expressed concern for the governor’s children, saying, “I feel so bad for his kids.”

Chukwu, while defending the governor, accused Davido of crossing the line with his comments and social media activity. He also criticised the singer’s associate, Israel DMW, whom he blamed for allegedly encouraging Davido to criticise the governor. The aide further pushed back on the authenticity of the shared document, describing it as allegedly manipulated, and cautioned Davido against making similar posts targeting the governor in the future.

It was not immediately clear whether the statement represented an official position of the Edo State Government or was a personal response by the governor’s aide. The video of Chukwu’s comments has since circulated widely online, adding fresh attention to the ongoing back-and-forth between the singer and the Edo State government, with no indication yet that either side intends to de-escalate the dispute.

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