Updated: Sex-starved husband cries out as wife threatens to date another woman

Eighteen years ago, Ishaq Ojo exchanged marital vows with his wife, Awawu. But the love between the couple flipped recently sending the once happy couple on a warring path that has shattered their matrimony.

In a video recording exclusively obtained by our reporter, Ojo is seen frantically crying for help while struggling to break free from the grip of his wife, who is threatening to dispatch him into early grave.

The couple’s daughter (name withheld) and a female relative of Awawu are also heard pleading with Awawu to stop attacking Ojo.

The recorded incident occurred at the couple’s home in Obide-Ntabo Ibaragun near Ijoko area of Ado-Odo/Ota Local Government Area, Ogun State.

“I will make sure that I kill you. I have been told to kill you and I will kill you. It is today that you will die…” Awawu threatened in the video recording.

Ojo on his part is seen screaming: “She has bitten me again! She has smashed my mobile phone on the ground…Please, don’t kill me!”

Their daughter is also heard saying: “My mother, please don’t kill him… I beg you in the name of God, consider the fact that both of you have been taking care of me.”

Speaking with our reporter, Ojo, who works with a Lagos-based television station as a cameraman, explained that the recording captured moments when Awawu drew a kitchen knife and went after him after trying unsuccessfully to suffocate him with a pillow.

He said he was left with no choice but to cry out for help.

The embattled husband said: “I fled home more than two weeks ago when she brought out a knife and threatened to kill me.

“Our daughter and one of my wife’s  sisters, who were around, were the ones holding her back from stabbing me with the knife. Hence, I fled home for my dear life.

“I had barely returned from work that day when she stirred up an altercation, and before I knew it, she went into the kitchen, brought out a knife and tried to stab me.”

But what actually turned Ojo and Awawu into estranged couple after almost a decade in marriage? Ojo offered an insight, saying that his wife suddenly forbid him from mating with her, giving various excuses.

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He said: “She sells building materials and I was responsible for setting her up in the business.

“The genesis of this crisis is that I took a second wife after she deliberately denied me sex for more than six months.

“She had been threatening to kill me even before she found out about the new woman in my life.

“She actually trailed my new woman to her residence where she threatened that she would deal with her if she did not desist from seeing me.

“I decided to take a second wife after she stopped me from making love to her for six months.

“First, she told me she was having sex with other men outside, including an hotelier, who is one of her rich customers and that I can no longer make love to her.

“At another time, she told me that she usually experienced low sales and patronage in her business each time I had sex with her. Hence, she denied me sex at home.

“She continued to assault me each time I tried to make love to her.

“She had used a screwdriver to stab me and also bit me with her teeth several times. The scars are all over my body.”

Ojo explained further that he once reported his wife to some Muslim clerics, who intervened and pleaded with her to no avail.

“When I invited some Muslim clerics who taught her the Koran to talk to her, she again said that she usually suffered misfortune in her business whenever we had sex and that was the reason she denied me of sex.

“The clerics told her that she was wrong to have denied me sex but she turned a deaf ear to their admonitions.

“I was advised by people to leave my home for her because she could kill me one day.

“After she found out about my new wife, she started asking me to make love to her everyday.

“However, if I refused that sex should not be an everyday thing, she would assault me and threaten to deal with me if I did not quit my affair with my new wife, especially after she found that I had impregnated the lady and she was delivered of a baby.

”She held me by the throat and attempted to suffocate me with a pillow. And when I managed to free my neck from her grip, I ran out of the house.

“She then went to report to the police at the Agbado Police Division that I assaulted her just to prevent me from attending the naming of the baby my new wife had for me.

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“I was arrested and detained, and she asked that I should be charged to court for assault.

“Even when the policemen there told her that the penalty for assault is seven years imprisonment, she insisted that I must be prosecuted.

“My family members and friends pleaded with her and the police, I was freed after the police forced me to sign an undertaking that I would never assault her again and that I must desist from seeing my new wife and baby henceforth.

“She also took the matter to a monarch in Ota where she was cautioned about her attitude and asked to stop hostility with me.

“Dissatisfied, she took the matter to a radio programme and maligned my person.

“She is from Ibadan. She is about 46 years old and its very disturbing how she changed overnight.

Sometime ago, she woke me in the wee hours and confessed that she was seeing a rich hotelier who happened to be one of her customers and that she had sex several times with the man. I could not believe my ears and I was devastated.

“A few days later, she changed the story, saying that she was only trying to gauge my reaction and was not dating the hotelier.

“Later, she said that a spirit husband was making love to her while sleeping and that she could no longer have sex with me. I was no longer having any peace of mind at home.

“I am the owner of my house at Obide Ntabo community in Ado-Odo/Ota Local Government Area of Ogun State. But I needed to leave the home to save myself from untimely death from my cruel wife.

“She has two I could children for me; a boy and a girl. I could not have raised my hand against her because I know that she is a sickle cell patient. But she is cruel at home, not minding her fragile health.”

Ojo added: ”The Baale (head) of our community heard about the matter on a radio programme when my wife reported me. But when the Baale asked her about it, she denied being the one mentioned, saying that nothing was wrong with her marriage.

“However, when the Baale called me on the phone I opened up to him that the matter was about me and my wife and that she actually took the matter to a radio programme.

“It was then that she now told the Baale that she denied being the one mentioned on the radio programme because she did not want her domestic matter to gain public traction, especially in our neighbourhood.

Awawu could not be reached through calls and text messages to get her comments.

Source: The Nation

Updated: Sex-starved husband cries out as wife threatens to date another woman