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‘I regret snatching my friend’s husband’
‘I regret snatching my friend’s husband’
A Reader wrote: I have followed your columns way back from your Punch days when I was in the university. Most of the times, your articles are so down-to-earth they speak to me – as if you are writing about me. In one of the editions of Sunday Vanguard a few months back, you wrote about why second marriages might not work. I am a living example of that. I’d been married for over 12 years with three children when I changed jobs for a challenging management post in a bank. The salary almost doubled what I earned and I quickly made friends with a colleague who was about the same age. Her name is Tina and it was inevitable that both families met.
“We attended each other’s functions and Francis, Tina’s husband, was a particularly friendly chap. Tina had regaled me with stories of his affairs but I saw the reason why women found him attractive – he was dishy!
When Tina travelled abroad on a course and Francis came to the office, I wondered what he wanted. Thinking he needed help with his bank account, I went to him. But he said he just dropped by because he was lonely and missed Tina so much. He also missed her home-cooking. I was touched and promised to drop some packaged meals at his place. He was to put them in the freezer and help himself whenever he felt hungry.
“True to my word, I dropped the meals at the house of a very eager Francis. He offered to pay for them, but I refused. He insisted I stayed for a drink. To be frank with you, Francis had always intrigued me. I mean, he must have something special for all those women to be panting after him. So, when he made a pass at me, I didn’t resist. Like a lamb to the slaughter, I let him lead me to his matrimonial bed. I wasn’t disappointed – Francis really knew how to bonk! Why else was I risking my marriage for this? He made my head spin with his love-making, transporting me to places I never imagined possible.
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“That was how our affair started. So though Tina and I worked together, I parcelled off the guilty I felt at helping myself to her husband. I knew we were playing with fire – both of us were married with children and Tina, my friend, was the one who’d introduced me to her husband. That shows the extent of her trust and complacency in her marriage. Seun, my husband and I had since lost the magic of our early years. Even then, he wasn’t as hot as Francis was.
Comparing Seun to Francis was like comparing a Christmas sparkler to a rocket! My head had already been turned by Francis’ sizzling, scorching ways.
So the affair continued for about a year before the bubble burst. I was returning from another illicit date with Francis when my husband was waiting for me with a disgusted look on his face. “Tina just rang”, he spat. “She saw you with her husband coming out of a hotel. She said she’d become suspicious of her husband yet again and had followed him only to see both of you together.
“All the glow of our love-making drained out of me. “We are just friends having a meal together …” I panicked. Seun warned I shouldn’t insult his intelligence. Instead, I should be thinking of what to tell my friend when I faced her in the office the next day. As for this sham of marriage, Seun told me it was now dust. He couldn’t cope with the thought that his wife had been having a torrid affair with a supposed family friend for months. What I had was not a fling, he told me nastily, it was a relationship and I was now free to pursue my passion.
“The hardest part was facing Tina in the office. She made a scene and all eyes were on me as if I’d committed a crime. Our head of department invited us both to his office when he heard the commotion, and to be fair to him, he didn’t pass judgement. All he said was that we’d both fouled up the office atmosphere and one of us would have to be transferred to another branch. I quickly offered to go. I felt really awful at first. But Francis was really sorry for breaking up my marriage and quickly found me a flat, which I moved into with two of my children.
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“My eldest, a boy, decided to stay with his father. So that was how Francis and I became a reluctant couple, Tina stayed put in her matrimonial home – she’s used to her husband’s philandering. Whatever sadness I felt at the death of my marriage was quickly erased by Francis’ love-making. Fate put on its final seal when I discovered I was pregnant. It wasn’t planned and I was really angry with myself. Francis, on the other hand was delighted and before the baby was due, insisted on a traditional marriage. Seun had already instituted a divorce anyway and I would be a fool to contest it with a full-blown pregnancy!
‘I regret snatching my friend’s husband’
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MUSWEN congratulates new NAHCON acting Secretary
MUSWEN congratulates new NAHCON acting Secretary
The Muslim Ummah of South West Nigeria, the umbrella body for all Muslim Communities/Councils and all Muslim organisations in the six states of South West Nigeria: Ekiti, Lagos, Ogun, Ondo, Osun and Oyo States, has congratulated Alhaji Alidu Shutti on his appointment as the Acting Secretary of the National Hajj Commission of Nigeria.
The letter, signed by the President of MUSWEN and Deputy President-General (South) of the Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs, Alhaji Rasaki Oladejo, said: “Please bring your experience in running Hajj operations, which you have garnered and deployed over the years, to manifestly reflect in this new position of responsibility, for the benefit of the entire Muslim Ummah in Nigeria.
“We pray Allah (swt) guides you to succeed in this new task.
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“The Chairman of NAHCON is highly commended for this well thought-out decision of looking inwards to identify an experienced hand, versatile in your operations. This is, as opposed to the approach of appointing someone who will still require going through training and induction into the culture and the inner workings of NAHCON. Al hamdu li Llaah, for your painstaking thoroughness, Mr. Chairman.
“May Allah (swt) continue to guide your thoughts and your ways.
“Once again, as we congratulate Alhaji Alidu Shutti, the Acting Secretary and we highly commend Prof. Abdullah Usman Saleh, Chairman/CEO, National Hajj Commission of Nigeria (NAHCON) for this thoughtful appointment.
“May Almighty Allah continue to help the organisation, National Hajj Commission of Nigeria (NAHCON), as you make efforts towards making Hajj easier for Nigerians.
“We also look forward to fostering a good partnership with you in the South West, as you steer the ship of blissful Hajj for our teeming Muslim brothers and sisters in Nigeria.”
MUSWEN congratulates new NAHCON acting Secretary
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Prison officer sentenced for engaging in sexual activity with inmate
Prison officer sentenced for engaging in sexual activity with inmate
A 31-year-old prison officer, Linda De Sousa Abreu, has been sentenced to 15 months in prison for engaging in sexual activity with an inmate at HMP Wandsworth in London.
The incident, which took place on June 25, 2024, was recorded by another prisoner and later circulated widely on social media.
The footage, lasting nearly five minutes, led to De Sousa Abreu’s identification and subsequent investigation.
Authorities arrested De Sousa Abreu at Heathrow Airport on June 28, 2024, as she attempted to flee to Madrid. She had informed the prison of her resignation, stating she would not return to work.
De Sousa Abreu pleaded guilty to misconduct in a public office on July 29 last year. At her sentencing at Isleworth Crown Court on Monday, Judge Martin Edmunds KC described her actions as “immensely serious,” stating, “You engaged in sexual activity with a prisoner. That compromised your role as an officer and was misconduct which undermines discipline within the prison, putting fellow officers at increased risk.”
The court heard that De Sousa Abreu had a history of poor mental health and trauma. On the day of the incident, she had consented to the sexual activity and agreed to the presence of another inmate, who filmed the act while appearing to smoke cannabis. The video was later shared online without her consent, causing significant repercussions.
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Judge Edmunds acknowledged that De Sousa Abreu participated in the encounter with “evident enthusiasm” and had also engaged in sexual activity with the same inmate earlier that day, as well as on a prior occasion. He added: “Whether you intended it or not, the fact is that the video went viral and caused great harm.”
The fallout from the incident extended beyond De Sousa Abreu’s actions. Female officers at HMP Wandsworth reported increased abuse, harassment, and sexual advances from prisoners after the video’s release. Some officers’ children were also teased at school about their parents’ professions. Judge Edmunds remarked, “It is inevitable that the damage for which you were responsible at Wandsworth has spread, to some degree, through the prison estate.”
De Sousa Abreu’s 15-month sentence will see her serve half the time in custody, with the remainder on licence. She also received a 95-day reduction due to wearing an electronic tag for 190 days.
A spokesperson for the Prison Service condemned the incident, emphasising that such behaviour undermined the integrity of the system.
“While the overwhelming majority of Prison Service staff are hardworking and honest, we’re catching more of the small minority who break the rules by bolstering our Counter Corruption Unit and strengthening our vetting processes. As today’s sentencing demonstrates, where officers do fall below our high standards, we won’t hesitate to take robust action.”
Tetteh Turkson of the Crown Prosecution Service described De Sousa Abreu’s conduct as “a shocking breach of the public’s trust,” adding, “She was clearly an enthusiastic participant who wrongly thought she would avoid responsibility.”
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Container falls on tricycle in Ogbomoso, three die
Container falls on tricycle in Ogbomoso, three die
Tragedy struck in the Takie area of Ogbomoso, Oyo State when a container-laden truck lost control and fell on a commercial tricycle, crushing three people to d3ath.
The accident which occurred around 9:30 a.m. on Tuesday, January 7, 2025, at Takie Junction, trapped two female passengers and the tricycle rider under the fallen container.
According to eyewitness accounts, the truck lost control while navigating a bend, causing the container to topple and crush the tricycle beneath it.
Rescue officials later confirmed that all three victims had died.
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Efforts are ongoing to remove the container from the road to prevent further accidents and restore normal traffic flow in the area.
This accident just happen at Takie junction, Ogbomoso pic.twitter.com/z0iERXpMiW
— Star Potter (@Starpotternews) January 7, 2025
Container falls on tricycle in Ogbomoso, three die
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