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Couples who kiss regularly are less likely to get depressed – Study

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April 24, 2022

WHEN it comes to first kisses, scientists agree with those who believe in love at first sight, happy endings and the power of that first glorious embrace. That’s because, Scientists say, a kiss is much more than just a way of saying you fancy someone. It’s an efficient means of working out if your potential partner is the one for you.

In her book: The Science of Kissing, Sheril Kirshenbaum explains: “When we are that close to another person, all our senses are engaged allowing our bodies to assess compatibility and the potential for a long-term relationship.” This behaviour, she says, evolved to help humans fulfill three basic needs – sex drive, romantic love and attachment. “In other words,” she says, “kissing helps us find partners, commit to one person and keep couples together long enough to have a child.”

So how does locking lips help us achieve all these? When you kiss, you can’t help smelling the other person. And biologists have found that women are more turned on by the smell of men who have very different immune systems from their own.

Kirshenbaum says; “This may be because potential children would have a higher level of genetic diversity, making them healthier and more likely to survive. In this manner, kissing serves as nature’s ultimate litmus test to help us determine when to pursue a relationship.”

And once we find our perfect genetic mate, our bodies respond instinctively to his kiss by flooding our systems with feel-good hormones. She explains that: “A good romantic kiss quicken our pulse and dilates our pupils, which is probably part of the reason so many of us close our eyes. Our brains receive more oxygen than normal and breathing can become irregular and deepen. Our cheeks flush too but that’s only the beginning. There’s an associated rise in the neurotransmitter dopamine, responsible for craving and desire.

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“Meanwhile, serotonin spikes to stimulate obsessive thoughts about a partner. This is the same neurotransmitter involved in obsessive-compulsive disorder (OeD), Oxytocin, popularly called the love hormone, is involved in bonding, fostering a sense of attachment. This is the chemical likely responsible for maintaining a love relationship over years and decades.”

We should not underestimate the importance of these chemicals. After all, how many of us have left the cinema after a dull romantic comedy and pointed out the ‘lack of chemistry’ between the couple who are supposed to be mad about each other? Or dreamt about how it would feel to kiss someone we have fantasised about for months – then been disappointed by the reality? For while that first kiss can be powerful enough to spark a lifelong romance, it can also break the spell.

A study of more than 1,000 students by the evolutionary psychologist George Gallup found that two-thirds of women and over half of men had been attracted to a potential partner – until they shared a disastrous first kiss. His team also found that men and women used kissing for different reasons. While the men mostly saw kissing as just a necessary step on the way to eventually having sex, women thought it was much more important. More men than women said they preferred kissing their partners with open mouths and using their tongues. And there’s even a good reason for that. Male saliva contains testosterone so it could affect how attractive the kissers find each other. Some scientists believe that men prefer sloppy kisses because they’re a way of working out how fertile a woman is – by ‘testing’ her saliva for tiny traces of oestrogen.

So when your kids scoff at your memories of that first magical kiss, tell them that without kissing, they might not have been here today. And make sure you don’t get out of the habit once your romance settles down. Research shows that couples who kiss regularly are less likely to get depressed, and those who kiss each other hello and goodbye have happier relationships than those who no longer do this.

How To Tell If Your Marriage Would Last

Are you and your spouse destined to be together forever? You don’t need a crystal ball. Just answer these five questions set by experts, honestly … Can you let things drop? Doesn’t it grate on you that he met his ex for lunch (a year age)? Is he still harping on about how you forgot your anniversary once?

Both of you need to be generous enough to put it behind you and move on. Everyone has got a past: we all mess up sometimes. Can you enjoy doing nothing together? If you can quite happily lounge around together, just enjoying the sound of silence, you work well as a couple. Do you fight right? If he’s a sulker and you’re a shouter. You could find it tricky to get to the bottom of an argument. So think about how you hammer things out and remember it is not about winning or losing – you both want the same thing.

Can you stop trying to change each other? We all try to fine-tune our partners a bit, but if you’re always offering to fix things for him, you will end up disappointed. You need to learn to accept the way your partner is or find someone you don’t need to fix!

Can you share your secrets? If you’ve opened up to him about your deepest, darkest moments but he is reluctant to talk, then you may need to think twice. It is by being open that we achieve intimacy.

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Copyright: Court orders Adele’s song removed from platforms

A Brazilian court has ordered the removal of Adele’s 2015 song Million Years Ago from radio and streaming platforms worldwide following a copyright lawsuit filed by local composer Toninho Geraes.

The ruling, delivered by Judge Victor Torres, comes after Geraes accused the British singer of copying his 1996 classic Mulheres, originally performed by Brazilian artist Martinho da Vila.

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In the lawsuit, Geraes is seeking $160,000 in moral damages, lost royalties, and a songwriting credit on Adele’s track.

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Funke Akindele,Toyin Abraham in another battle of wits

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Funke Akindele,Toyin Abraham in another battle of wits

It is no news that in the last five years, film producers cum actresses, Funke Akindele and Toyin Abraham have been engaged in an unspoken rivalry.

In fact, industry players claimed that their rivalry has resulted in both actresses not featuring in the same film until Bolanle Austen Peters decided to have both actresses on the set of Netflix original, ‘House of Gaa.’

The two actresses have become cinema queens after embracing and producing some of Nigeria’s highest grossings films in cinema in the last five years.

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Accept broke men or put up with busy ones – Kanayo O. Kanayo tells ladies

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Accept broke men or put up with busy ones – Kanayo O. Kanayo tells ladies

Nollywood actor Kanayo O. Kanayo has shared his thoughts on relationships and what women may need to consider when choosing a partner.

In a recent post on his Instagram page, he advised ladies to think carefully about their priorities and what they are willing to accept in a relationship.

Kanayo O. Kanayo suggested that women who are not willing to be with someone who is financially struggling may need to be prepared to date someone who is very busy and has limited time to devote to a relationship.

He presented this as a trade-off, implying that women may need to make a choice between these two options.

On his Instagram page, Kanayo wrote:

“The gentleman’s code: If you don’t want a man who is broke, you are going to have to put up with a busy one.”

In another news, Kanayo defends Davido amid backlash over economic comment.

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In a recent interview, Davido advised African Americans against relocating to Africa, citing Nigeria’s dire economic conditions as a case study.

The statement has since ignited widespread criticism, with many calling for the musician to apologize.

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The veteran actor highlighted that Davido, despite his privileged background, made the comments out of concern for the average Nigerian.

Dismissing the demands for an apology, Kanayo said:

“Nigerians make una leave Davido alone about the comment he made; it’s freedom of speech and he made it in good faith. It is left for those in power to work harder to give us a better Nigeria. We need to build a better Nigeria,” he said partly.

“Some people say he should apologize; apologize for what? He’s a Nigerian and he made his statement in good faith. Those who criticize us wants the best out of us. Davido and his family can feed well but he speaks for other Nigerians who cannot,” he added.