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Men beware – Lack of sex can make your wife miserable, angry

IT is a well-known fact that sex has come to be an accepted stress reliever.  Some mornings, Felicia confesses she feels so lethargic she has to force herself out of bed.  At work, the lethargy turns to irritability and she finds herself snapping at colleagues for no reason before returning home and picking silly arguments with Dan, her husband about dirty dishes and not helping enough with the children.  Sound familiar?

While Felicia’s mood swings may bear some resemblance to the symptoms of pre-menstrual tension or mild anxiety.  They are completely unrelated to her hormones or mental state.  Her crushingly low spirits are caused by something else altogether – when she last made love.  Too long without sex, and she becomes miserable and fractions.  “I feel so low, it’s like I’m almost depressed,” confesses Felicia, 33, an executive assistant.  “On the weekend, I can’t be bothered to look after the house or do any house work and I’m so short-tempered and feel angry at Dan for everything.

“At work too, my colleagues detect my change in mood and ask if I’m Ok, and I’ll then say  I’m feeling a bit low so they won’t take it personally.”  Felicia, a mother of two children aged five and 16 months, said she made the connection between her mood swings and the state of her love life after her children were born.  “Before we had children, we’d have sex whenever we wanted and would hardly go a day or two without,” she recalls.  “But parenthood drained our energy and we’d often be too exhausted.

As the gaps between our lovemaking become wider, I noticed the difference in my attitude to Dan.  Even when we hadn’t had sex for just a week, I’d start to feel like we were drifting apart and it made me frustrated and angry.  I worried about everything and whether our relationship was in trouble.  It was very frightening.  I can see how couples could break up in these circumstances. A ‘sex famine’ as it’s now popularly referred to, is something many exhausted parents can identify with, not to mention couples who’ve lapsed into a lazy over-familiarity in long relationships.”

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The truth is we’re simply not making love as often as we need to.  And what’s now becoming apparent are the serious repercussions.  As well as impacting on our mood and mental health, experts now believe a lack of sex is particularly responsible for the break-up of some marriages.  Early last year, scientists from Florida State University confirmed the importance of sex in making women happy, revealing it triggers an ‘afterglow’ that lingers for 48 hours and which helps couples to bond.  Without it, they become miserable and distant.

“And the statistics back this up – according to a recent global survey of 26,000 people aged 16 and older across 26 countries, only 44 per cent of people are fully satisfied with their sex lives. A report by the Kinsey Sex Institute noted that a woman who had sex nine times in a month was 1.24 times as likely to be happy as a woman who had sex four times in a month.

Scientists blame lack of sex activity in the bedroom on the stresses of modern living.  The researchers say this decrease in the amount of sex we have could be due to the increased connectivity of modern life, with screens and distractions which don’t go off at 11pm as the old and few TV CHANNELS USED TO.  You can see why people would have more time for sex.  What else was there to do on a rainy evening in the pre-Net-fix and wi-fi days than slip under the covers with a willing partner?

“Modern women are working harder too.  Add this to the fact that most of us are available online 24/7 and juggling demanding jobs with just as demanding children, and sleep is what most of us lust after in bed,.  Dr. Geoff Hackeff, a leading expert in sexual medicine believes if we carry on like this, sex is in danger of being a lost art.  “The domestic set-up in the Fifties, for example, seemed to positively encourage sex,” he says.  “But nowadays, there’s not enough focus on it.  Women are tired; they’re working or focusing on screaming children.  Some are even exhausting themselves at the gym – which, done to excess, can affect your hormones and destroy your desire.  An active sex life keeps couples together and makes people live longer.”

For Dan, Felicia’s husband, the Jekyll and Hyde changes in his wife’s personality when they don’t have time for physical intimacy have been hard to bear.  “It was awful,” he says.  “She’d shout at me for little things I had or hadn’t done, and because we both work full-time, it made everything so much harder.  Before we had kids, we’d have a lot of sex, but now we’re tired and it’s more difficult.  I do miss sex too, but I don’t suffer without it as much as Felicia does.  And the only thing that could end the strained atmosphere is to get intimate.  As soon as we have sex, her bad mood lifts and I have my loving, kind wife back.  It’s as if a switch had been flicked.”

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Felicia agrees.  “It’s like we’ve entered the honeymoon period and for the next few days, I’ll feel all happy and normal again.  But this only lasts for a week or ten days, so we make a conscious effort to have sex regularly, even if we don’t feel like it.”  For year, studies have lauded the physical and psychological benefits of sex.  Behaviour linking regular sexual activity to emotional well-being, found that younger women felt more depressed the longer they hadn’t had sex.  This is because, like any exercise that raises your heart rate, sex causes your brain to release feel – good chemicals that boost your levels of serotonin – the happy hormone – to lift your mood.  Serotonin is the body’s key anti-depressant chemical and one of the major reasons people feel happy and relaxed after sex.

According to David Weeks, former head of old age psychology and clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, people need to be more aware of the importance of a healthy sex life, particularly in their early years.  “Sex has a number of health benefit, which can make men and women look five to seven years younger,” he says.  “It causes the release of endorphins, the ‘feel good’ chemical which acts as a natural pain-killer and reduces anxiety, aiding sleep.  The exercise itself boost circulation which is good for the heart and it also causes the human growth hormone to be released which produces more lean “muscles and less fat and makes the skin look more elastic and attractive.”

But it’s not just physiological benefits that count.  Dr. Weeks claims sexual satisfaction is a major contributor to quality of life and the psychological impact cannot be understated.  “If there’s an absence of pleasure, there is an absence of connectedness between two people, and people may start to have doubts about their relationships,” he says.  “Sex sustains intimacy and there are some people who crave that need for sociability and sex more than others.”

Who Needs Light In The Dark?  (Humour)

A guy on a date parks his car and gets his girlfriend in the back seat.  They make love, and the girl wants to do it again almost instantly.

They end up doing it a second, a third and a fourth time, until the bloke needs a rest and ask his girlfriend to excuse him as he needs to take a leak.  While out of the car, he notices a man a few yards away changing a flat tyre.  He walks over and says, “Listen, my girlfriend’s over there in my car and I’ve already given it to her four times and she still wants more.  If you give her one for me, I’ll change your tyre.”

The lucky motorist readily agrees, climbs into the vehicle and begins shagging the insatiable girl.  While he is at it doggy styles, a police man shines a torch through the window.  “What do you think you’re doing there?” he asks the man, who replies, “I’m making love to my wife.”

The police man looks bemused and says, “Why don’t you do it at home?”

The man answers, “Well, I didn’t know it was my wife until you shone the torch on her.”

 

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Police Arrest Suspect, Hunt Two Others for Allegedly Killing Woman Accused of Witchcraft in Bauchi

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Police Arrest Suspect, Hunt Two Others for Allegedly Killing Woman Accused of Witchcraft in Bauchi

  • The Bauchi State Police Command has arrested one suspect and launched a manhunt for two others over the killing of a 30-year-old woman, Habse Ubale, who was allegedly hacked to death after being accused of witchcraft in Garin Malam Village.

The Bauchi State Police Command has arrested one suspect and is hunting for two others in connection with the killing of a 30-year-old woman, Habse Ubale, who was allegedly hacked to death after being accused of witchcraft in Garin Malam Village, Gamawa Local Government Area of the state. The Police Public Relations Officer, SP Nafiu Habib, disclosed this in a statement issued on Friday, July 31, 2026, saying the suspects were being investigated for criminal conspiracy, house trespass, assault and culpable homicide. According to him, the incident was reported to the Gamawa Divisional Police Headquarters on July 29 by a 45-year-old resident of the community.

Habib said preliminary findings showed that on July 28 at about 2:28am, the principal suspect, identified as Garba Daudu (35) , allegedly conspired with two others, identified as Ya’u Garba and Musa, who is yet to be fully identified, to invade the residence of one Audu Sabo. The suspects attacked Audu Sabo on the allegation that his wife, Habse Ubale, was a witch. During the attack, the suspects also assaulted Sale Audu (12) and Yakubu Audu (14) with sticks, while Habse Ubale was attacked with a machete. As a result, all the victims sustained varying degrees of serious injuries. The police spokesman said a combined team of police operatives, hunters and vigilantes was immediately deployed to the scene, while the victims were evacuated to the General Hospital, Gamawa, for treatment. He added that Ubale was later confirmed dead by a medical doctor, while one of the injured victims remained on admission and the other two victims were treated and discharged.

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Habib added that police operatives swiftly arrested one suspect, while efforts had been intensified to apprehend the two fleeing suspects. He said the case had been transferred to the State Criminal Investigation Department in Bauchi for discreet investigation and possible prosecution. The Commissioner of Police in the state, CP Sani-Omolori Aliyu, condemned the killing, warning residents against jungle justice and acts of violence driven by superstition. He assured the public that the command remained committed to ensuring justice for the victim and bringing all those involved in the crime to justice.

The command urged residents to remain calm, law-abiding and provide credible information that could assist security operatives in arresting the remaining suspects. The police reiterated their commitment to protecting lives and property and called on community members to refrain from taking the law into their own hands.

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Woman Strangles Co-wife’s 3-Year-Old Daughter to Death in Kwara

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Woman Strangles Co-wife’s 3-Year-Old Daughter to Death in Kwara

  • The Kwara State Police Command has arrested Sadiat Yunusa for allegedly killing her co-wife’s three-year-old daughter out of jealousy and resentment over a prolonged domestic dispute.

The Kwara State Police Command has arrested a woman, Sadiat Yunusa, for allegedly strangling her co-wife’s three-year-old daughter to death in Kaiama, Kaiama Local Government Area of the state. The state Commissioner of Police, Adekimi Ojo, disclosed this while briefing journalists in Ilorin on Friday, July 31, 2026, on operational successes recorded recently by the command. He said the act by the suspect was motivated by resentment and jealousy arising from a prolonged domestic dispute. According to the CP, the case was reported at Kaiama Divisional Police Headquarters on July 25, 2026. Preliminary findings revealed that the three-year-old girl, Ummaiyat, had been left in the care of a family member while her mother went to the Kaiama Central Market.

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During that period, the suspect, Sadiat Yunusa, allegedly lured the child away to a nearby farm settlement, where she unlawfully caused her death by strangulation. The police said the child’s mother had entrusted her daughter to a family member while she went to the market, but Yunusa took advantage of the situation to carry out the alleged attack. “Prompt investigative efforts led to the arrest of the suspect, who, during interrogation, voluntarily confessed to the commission of the offence,” the CP said. “She disclosed that the act was motivated by resentment and jealousy arising from a prolonged domestic dispute, alleging that her husband had neglected her and her three children in favour of his second wife.”

The police boss said the command has concluded preliminary investigations and the suspect has been charged to court. Ojo also reiterated the command’s resolve to tackle violent crimes across Kwara State through intelligence-driven policing and community collaboration. He urged residents to promptly report suspicious activities and domestic disputes that could escalate into violence, stressing that early intervention often helps prevent tragic outcomes. The case has generated concern within the community due to the age of the victim and the circumstances surrounding her death. It is important to note that while the police have presented these allegations, the suspect is presumed innocent until proven guilty in a competent court of law.

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Court Awards N12m Damages Against Police for Abduction, Unlawful Detention of Journalist

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Court Awards N12m Damages Against Police for Abduction, Unlawful Detention of Journalist

  • Justice Bello Kawu rules that the police violated the reporter’s constitutional rights to dignity and personal liberty during a 2024 arrest in Abuja.

A Federal Capital Territory High Court, presided over by Justice Bello Kawu, has ordered the Nigeria Police Force to pay N12 million in damages for the abduction and unlawful detention of Kasarahchi Aniagolu, a reporter with THE WHISTLER Newspaper. Aniagolu was arrested, assaulted, and detained for eight hours by the Nigeria Police Force on February 21, 2024, in Abuja. She was arrested at a location in Wuse Zone 4 where police operatives allegedly came on a covert operation against operators of illegal bureau de change.

According to reports from the Committee to Protect Journalists (CPJ), Aniagolu was on a separate reporting assignment when she encountered the police raid and approached an officer, showing her press identification, to request a formal interview. The officer declined, and another nearby officer told Aniagolu to stop filming until the police were done, which she did. After about ten minutes, the officers began to leave, and Aniagolu again began to film and photograph the scene. A female officer noticed and approached Aniagolu, angrily asked who had given her permission to cover the incident, and slapped Aniagolu’s face; another officer hit her on the hand with their gun, and then the female officer dragged the journalist into a police van. On their way to the station, a male officer questioned Aniagolu’s sex, reportedly saying, “Are you sure this is a girl? The way she is holding tightly to her phone seems like it’s a man,” Aniagolu told CPJ. A female officer sitting close to Aniagolu then used her hand to press on the journalist’s chest to confirm her sex. The male officer then pointed his gun at the journalist and threatened to shoot her if she did not give him her phone, boasting that he would “get away with murder” if he killed her. After arriving at the station, two officers pushed the journalist onto her knees, held her hands, and used her face authentication to unlock her phone and delete pictures and videos of the raid. Officers then made her sit on the floor with around 60 men who were arrested during the raid.

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The reporter subsequently filed a suit on October 25, 2024, against the Inspector-General of Police and the Nigeria Police Force, demanding N100 million in damages. In her statement of claims, she said the police abducted her and breached her privacy by seizing her phone and deleting pictures in it. She also accused the police of subjecting her to inhuman treatment while in detention thereby infringing on her fundamental right. The suit was filed on her behalf by the legal firm of Adekunle Kosoko Esq. of Seasons Law Firm, Abuja.

In a judgment delivered on Wednesday, July 29, 2026, the court declared that the police “subjected the Applicant to inhuman and degrading treatment in contravention of Section 34(1)(a) and (b) of the 1999 Constitution (as amended) .” The court also ruled that the “abduction of the applicant by officers of the Respondents and the subsequent detention of the Applicant at the Respondent’s station in Guzape District of the Federal Capital Territory, Abuja infringed on the Applicant’s right to personal liberty, in contravention of sections 35(1) of the 1999 Constitution (as amended) .” Justice Kawu subsequently ordered the Police to pay the reporter the sum of N10 million as damages for the infringement on her fundamental rights. The presiding judge also ordered the police to pay the reporter the sum of N2 million to cover the cost of litigation.

The Human Rights Writers Association of Nigeria (HURIWA) had earlier condemned the incident, calling on President Bola Tinubu to sack or call to order Inspector General of Police Kayode Egbetokun over the attack. The rights group described the aggression against Aniagolu as “absolutely intolerable, despicable, reprehensible, primitive and disappointing.” The ruling is expected to renew conversations around police conduct during operations and the protection of journalists in the line of duty. The case marks another significant legal victory for press freedom in Nigeria, reinforcing judicial protections for journalists covering sensitive matters. The Committee to Protect Journalists (CPJ) had also documented the case, highlighting the dangers journalists face while carrying out their professional duties in Nigeria. As of the time of filing this report, the Nigeria Police Force had not responded to the judgment or indicated whether it intends to appeal the decision.

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