Mothers sabotaging their sons’ marriages without knowing it, by Stephanie Shaakaa
Mothers are sabotaging their sons’ marriages without knowing it. It begins quietly.
A mother feels alone, rejected, or emotionally starved by the man who vowed to love her, her husband. She stays in the marriage but leaves in spirit. And then, without realizing it, she chooses a new partner.
Her son.
Not sexually. Not even consciously. But emotionally,fully,fiercely she marries him figuratively.
He becomes her provider. Her pillar. Her man of the house.Her emotional husband.
And just like that, she borrows his masculinity to patch the holes in her womanhood.
She didn’t raise a son. She preserved a husband.
This is not love.This is emotional incest. And it’s everywhere quietly masquerading as closeness, admiration, even good parenting.
You’ve heard it before.
My son is my king.
He’s the only man who’s never disappointed me.
Nobody can love me like my son.
It sounds cute, harmless, even admirable. But scratch beneath the surface and you’ll find a boy emotionally bound to a woman he can never say no to and a man unable to give his wife what belongs to her because his soul is still tethered to his mother’s throne.
A man torn between two queens builds no kingdom.
They try. But they fail.
They bring their mothers into the sacred space of their marriages not just physically, but also emotionally, mentally, spiritually. And their wives? They are forced into emotional threesomes they never signed up for.
And when the wife speaks? She’s branded the jealous one. The intruder. The problem. The family scatterer.
He grows into a boy in a suit, responsible, yes. Successful, maybe. But emotionally unavailable, indecisive, loyal to guilt instead of love.
You cannot build a home with a man who is already emotionally married.
To the wives who are losing to mothers,
It’s not your fault.
You are not crazy.
You are not the enemy.
You married a man whose umbilical cord was never fully cut.
You are sleeping next to someone who wakes up every morning already spoken for.
To the mothers who need to hear this
Let your son go.
Let him be a husband to his wife, not to you. Let him disappoint you without guilt. Let him build without you at the center.
You already had your reign. Let the new queen rise.
Let sons be sons not substitutes.
Mothers, you can’t heal through your sons. That’s not love, that’s theft.
A throne cannot hold two queens.
A man emotionally married to his mother is unavailable to his wife.
Let your son go.
A throne cannot hold two queens
He doesn’t need a second wife. He needs a mother who knows when to step back. If you don’t let go, you’ll lose him not to another woman, but to a life unlived.
I know I am detonating a sacred cow. I know I’m dragging a cultural idol down from its pedestal. But this conversation must be had. Because silence has never healed us. Because too many marriages are bleeding, too many sons are drowning in guilt, and too many wives are wrestling with ghosts they cannot name.
This is not an attack on mothers it is a wake-up call to a society that confuses love with possession, nurture with control, and motherhood with invisible marriage.
If this truth makes you uncomfortable, good. It means you’re still alive. Still capable of change. Still capable of setting someone free.
Mothers sabotaging their sons’ marriages without knowing it, by Stephanie Shaakaa
US-Based Nigerian Lawyers Disbarred: Full List of Fraud, Theft and Misconduct Cases
Several Nigerian lawyers who practised in the United States have been disbarred, suspended or otherwise sanctioned following disciplinary proceedings over professional misconduct, including fraud, theft, misappropriation of client funds and unauthorised legal practice, according to court documents and disciplinary records reviewed by journalists.
The sanctions were imposed by various state and federal legal authorities, including the Supreme Court of the State of New York, the Minnesota Supreme Court, the Florida Supreme Court, the Board of Immigration Appeals and the Executive Office for Immigration Review.
The cases reveal a pattern of vulnerable clients — particularly immigrants desperate to regularise their status in the US — being targeted by lawyers who exploited their fear and lack of legal knowledge.
Among those permanently struck off the roll of attorneys, Owolabi M. Salis was disbarred by the Supreme Court of the State of New York in 2022 after a litany of complaints from immigrant clients who accused him of stealing tens of thousands of dollars. The court found that Salis had filed 1,185 fraudulent and frivolous immigration petitions over eight years, with only one approved. He also attempted to conceal his identity from immigration authorities. Salis failed to appear at his disciplinary hearing and did not notify the grievance committee, according to the disbarment records. His name was struck from the roll of attorneys. Despite being disbarred, Salis allegedly continued to practise law, meeting clients in the evenings. Brooklyn District Attorney Eric Gonzalez filed seven criminal charges against him in August 2023, including third- and fourth-degree grand larceny, second-degree criminal contempt, first-degree scheme to defraud, immigrant assistance services fraud and unlawful practice of the law. Salis, who gained international attention in June 2025 as the first Nigerian to travel to space aboard a Blue Origin mission, had his disbarment appeal dismissed by the Board of Immigration Appeals in December 2025.
Neda B. Imasuen, now a Nigerian senator representing Edo South, was permanently disbarred by the Supreme Court of the State of New York, Appellate Division, on 10 May 2010. The Grievance Committee for the Second, Eleventh and Thirteenth Judicial Districts found that Imasuen had neglected a legal matter entrusted to him by an American client, Daphne Slyfield, after being paid substantial legal fees. Imasuen failed to respond to the petition within the stipulated 20 days and did not seek an extension. The court deemed the charges admitted and ordered that he “desist and refrain from practising law in any form.” He returned to Nigeria the same year and later entered politics. In March 2025, suspended Kogi Central Senator Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan filed a petition with the Legal Practitioners Disciplinary Committee seeking Imasuen’s disbarment in Nigeria, alleging he failed to disclose his US disbarment when contesting for office. Imasuen has denied any criminal wrongdoing. In a June 2025 interview, he claimed the disbarment stemmed from a civil negligence issue — his former Brooklyn landlord improperly discarded confidential client files while he was on vacation in Nigeria. He stated: “It’s a civil issue of negligence, not a criminal case. If you read the ruling, it clearly states there was no stealing or misconduct — just mishandling of files left by my landlord.”
Chinyere Alex Ogoke, a Chicago-based lawyer licensed in 2005, was disbarred in 2021 after continuing to practise despite an earlier suspension by the Board of Immigration Appeals. Ogoke falsely claimed he was “not subject to any order suspending or otherwise restricting his practice of law” while filing notices of appearance on behalf of 11 immigration clients. The board ruled that his “continued intentional and knowing disregard” for its suspension order and his repeated false claims were “serious violations that undermine the integrity of the legal system.”
Ignatius Chukwuemeka Udeani, based in Bloomington, Minnesota, was disbarred by the Minnesota Supreme Court in January 2023. He had been indefinitely suspended in 2020. The disciplinary body found he failed to protect his clients’ legal interests — specifically vulnerable immigrants — failed to return unearned legal fees and client funds, and did not properly cooperate with investigations.
Chuck Odifu Egbune, a Colorado-based lawyer, was disbarred in 2025 after engaging in illegal law practice while on suspension. He represented his sister in court without a valid licence, violating Colorado law.
Taiwo A. Agbaje, based in Maryland, was disbarred at both state and federal levels. The Board of Immigration Appeals issued a final order in June 2016 based on his Maryland disbarment. The court found he took $40,000 from a client for a Baltimore real estate investment and described his conduct as “dishonest and deceitful,” involving conflict of interest, fraud and misrepresentation.
Cyril O. Chukwurah, a Texas-based lawyer, was disbarred in 2015 for multiple violations including practising while on active suspension, violating disciplinary judgments in two other cases, and failing to properly deliver clients’ funds.
Wilfred I. Aka, a Los Angeles-based attorney and Certified Public Accountant, was disbarred in 2025 by the US Tax Court and the Board of Immigration Appeals after disciplinary actions in 2019 and 2020. He was found to have failed in his duties to the court, clients and opposing counsel.
Uchechi Okechukwu Nwakanma (also known as Prince Nwakanma), based in Houston, was disbarred in 2017 by the Board of Immigration Appeals after an initial suspension in 2015 for failing to pay fees and meet continuing education requirements.
Emeka M. Uyamadu, a Houston-based lawyer, was permanently disbarred in 2010 following felony convictions in Harris County, Texas, for stealing between $20,000 and $100,000.
Alexander Osondu Akpodiete, who practised in Florida, was disbarred by the Florida Supreme Court in 2010 following disciplinary proceedings between 2005 and 2008. His offences included contempt of court, failing to keep a client informed, and unauthorised withdrawal of $1,000 from a client’s credit card.
John Udo, admitted to the Massachusetts Bar in 1995, was disbarred in 2010 following a ten-count disciplinary petition accusing him of misusing and stealing client funds, neglecting immigration cases involving vulnerable clients and abandoning his professional responsibilities. The Massachusetts Clients’ Security Board later compensated 14 former clients.
In cases of temporary suspension, Aloysius O. Ejimakor was suspended from practising law in New York for nine months in 2004 after making false claims about his official qualifications. The Executive Office for Immigration Review instituted disciplinary proceedings in July 2003 after Ejimakor filed numerous notices of appearance in which he misrepresented his status as a member in good standing of the New York bar. Ejimakor failed to file a timely response to the allegations despite being granted an extension. The Department of Justice treated his silence as an admission of the charges. He has not been reinstated.
Abiola O. Adesioye, based in the District of Columbia, was suspended in July 2025 by the Board of Immigration Appeals from practising before the board, immigration courts and the Department of Homeland Security. This followed a suspension order from the District of Columbia Court of Appeals on 25 March 2025.
Michael Ozulumba, based in Massachusetts, was suspended for two years from practising before the Internal Revenue Service and the Executive Office for Immigration Review after being found guilty of professional misconduct, neglecting client cases and making misrepresentations.
Michael Imevbore Ojo, based in Houston, Texas, was suspended for 12 months by the State Bar of Texas for violations including neglect, failure to communicate and failure to cooperate with a state bar investigation. The Board of Immigration Appeals immediately suspended him in December 2005.
Anslem A. Efe, a Colorado-based legal practitioner, was indefinitely suspended in 2013 for unauthorised practice. Investigations found he engaged in employment as an attorney before the Executive Office for Immigration Review without authorisation and without lawful status in the United States.
Jude Chukwuma Ezeala, based in Maryland, was indefinitely suspended by the Court of Appeals of Maryland in 2017 for professional misconduct, including violations related to competence, diligence, communication, fees and safekeeping of client property.
Olayemi Isaac Falusi, based in Maryland, was indefinitely suspended in 2018 for unauthorised practice of law. He took on three clients and practised law in Maryland before he was officially admitted to the state bar.
Anthony Emeka Nze Nwosu, based in Sacramento, California, was suspended by the New York Supreme Court Appellate Division in October 2023 for failure to comply with attorney registration obligations and complaints from seven clients. The board subsequently imposed an indefinite suspension from practising before US immigration courts in January 2024.
Osamwonyi E. Osagiede, based in New Hampshire, was indefinitely suspended in 2009 by the Supreme Judicial Court for Suffolk County, Massachusetts, after being found involved in unauthorised practice. He had filed dozens of official representation forms with immigration courts.
Martin E. Nwizubo, a Washington-based legal practitioner, was placed on “disability inactive” status by the Washington State Bar Association in 2016. This status applies to lawyers suffering physical or mental health challenges that incapacitate their ability to practise. The board affirmed his suspension in 2017. This is not a disciplinary sanction for misconduct.
In one notable case of posthumous discipline, Emelike Nwosuocha, a Miami-based lawyer, died on 21 July 2024 at age 64 — yet disciplinary proceedings against him continued for 508 days after his death. The case began with a medical negligence lawsuit. After Nwosuocha’s client’s case was dismissed with prejudice, the court ordered him to pay $5,310** in attorney fees to the opposing counsel. When he failed to pay, the defendant filed a grievance. Nwosuocha was suspended for **six months** in 2023 for failing to answer the grievance. In June 2024, he received a **one-year suspension** for non-compliance. A second suspension required him to file a notice affidavit by **17 July 2024**. He died four days later. On 11 December 2025, the Florida Supreme Court suspended Nwosuocha for **three years** and fined him **$1,250 — unaware he had died. The Florida Bar filed a notice of death on 16 January 2026, and the court subsequently vacated the suspension and dismissed the case.
The cases share a troubling common thread: vulnerable immigrant clients were targeted by lawyers who exploited their desperation to remain in the United States. In the Salis case, Brooklyn District Attorney Eric Gonzalez noted: “Vulnerable immigrants sought his legal assistance. Instead of helping them, he allegedly defrauded his clients out of tens of thousands of dollars.” In the Imasuen case, the client paid substantial legal fees but was allegedly abandoned without representation. In the Udeani case, the Minnesota Supreme Court specifically cited his failure to protect “vulnerable immigrants.” The sanctions demonstrate that US disciplinary authorities are actively pursuing misconduct by lawyers — regardless of nationality — who betray their professional obligations. However, the cases also highlight the vulnerability of immigrant communities to exploitation by unscrupulous legal practitioners.
Several key takeaways emerge from these cases. Disbarment is the most severe sanction, permanently revoking a lawyer’s licence to practise. Cases include Owolabi Salis, Neda Imasuen, Chinyere Ogoke, Ignatius Udeani, Taiwo Agbaje, Cyril Chukwurah and others. Suspension temporarily bars a lawyer from practice, ranging from nine months (Ejimakor) to indefinite (Efe, Ezeala, Osagiede). Common violations include client fund misappropriation, fraud, neglect of cases, failure to communicate, unauthorised practice and false statements about qualifications. Vulnerable immigrants were disproportionately targeted by sanctioned lawyers, particularly in immigration matters. Posthumous discipline occurred in the Nwosuocha case, where proceedings continued for 508 days after death before being vacated.
US-Based Nigerian Lawyers Disbarred: Full List of Fraud, Theft and Misconduct Cases
Katsina Police Rescue Two Kidnapped Women, Arrest Suspected Kidnappers
Two women have been rescued from armed bandits in Katsina State after police officers engaged their abductors in a gun battle.
The rescue was one of several operations announced by the Katsina State Police Command, which also reported the arrest of suspected members of a kidnapping syndicate and an alleged informant.
The two women were taken from Sha’iskawa Fulani Village in Kankia Local Government Area after bandits attacked the community.
Police operatives responded to the incident and exchanged gunfire with the attackers. The confrontation forced the bandits to withdraw, giving the officers an opportunity to rescue both victims unharmed.
Elsewhere in Dutsin-Ma, the police said they dismantled a three-member kidnapping syndicate during a patrol based on credible intelligence.
The operation was carried out by the command’s Violent Crime Response Unit.
Police alleged that one of those arrested admitted to conspiring with other members of the group to abduct his grandfather.
The older victim was said to have remained in captivity for 16 days. He was eventually released after his family paid ₦3 million to the kidnappers.
The suspects remain in custody while investigators examine their alleged criminal activities and search for other people connected to the syndicate.
Katsina Commissioner of Police Ali Umar Fage commended the officers involved in the operations and said the command would continue to intensify its fight against banditry and kidnapping.
In a statement issued by police spokesperson DSP Abubakar Sadiq, residents were encouraged to stay vigilant and provide security agencies with timely and reliable information.
The command said cooperation between communities and security agencies remains essential to tackling criminal networks and protecting residents across Katsina State.
Katsina Police Rescue Two Kidnapped Women, Arrest Suspected Kidnappers
Oyo Kidnapping Murders: Ansaru Suspects Push Back in Court, Demand Private Lawyer Before Facing Fresh Charges
A planned judicial showdown over a deadly school raid in Oyo State took an unexpected turn Wednesday when five accused Ansaru militants refused government legal aid, forcing a 24-hour delay in their trial.
The suspects, identified under several battlefield aliases including Abu Bara’a, Isah Adam, Abu Khalifa, Abu Yunusa Bin Musa, and Abu Itisar, stand accused of orchestrating the May 15 terror raid in Oriire, where pupils and their teachers were seized, and two captives were murdered.
When the Federal High Court prepared to read the DSS’s amended six-count charge sheet, court-appointed counsel Akilaluyel Shettima stood to represent the men. However, lead defendant Mahmud Muhammad abruptly interjected, informing Justice Salim Ibrahim that the group would not proceed without their chosen attorney, Bala Dakum.
Rather than force the arraignment, government prosecutor Rotimi Oyedepo, SAN, conceded the point on fundamental rights grounds, affirming that a defendant’s choice of legal defense remains a non-negotiable constitutional protection.
Following the concession, Justice Ibrahim adjourned the session until September 17, ordering the secret police to provide the five men immediate access to Dakum so their defense can be finalized ahead of the fresh plea.
Oyo Kidnapping Murders: Ansaru Suspects Push Back in Court, Demand Private Lawyer Before Facing Fresh Charges
