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I’m out to make girls avoid pitfalls that crashed my marriage — Chiamaka Ogoo

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A motivational speaker and author, Mrs. Chiamaka Juliet Ogoo has been visiting girls secondary schools in Anambra State to inspire them to avoid pitfalls that could ruin their lives. She told Saturday Vanguard that as a young girl, she made a lot of mistakes which made her first marriage to crash and she learnt about life the hard way.

Chiamaka, a mother and now happily married, said her experience inspired her to write a book titled ‘Helping Her Win’, which is currently being distributed in the various secondary schools in Anambra State to enable girls understand that pride could ruin them if they were carried away by the things of life.

She said: “Helping Her Win is an inspiring lesson and experience of a mother passionate about mentoring young girls of 15 years and above to be in firm control of their lives. What motivated me to write the book was the kind of mistakes I made when I was growing up. In this country, many girls are not very close to their mothers to be able to learn how to avoid a situation whereby boys would deceive them to do what is not good for them. There are certain things the teenagers should do to avoid falling into wrong hands while growing up.

“So what motivated me was that having made mistakes in my life, I should help other girls to learn from my mistakes.

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“In fact 90% of the book contains my true life experiences and those of other girls I have interacted with in the course of mentoring them. I must say that I still regret some of the mistakes I made in life and I would not have made those mistakes if I had a book like the one I have just written.

“Because of naivety, I felt that my ex husband was not good enough for me and this caused so much rift between us and my desire was to leave him and go for another man out there because I was very beautiful, tall and fair. Without genuine reason, I left the marriage and went into another relationship only to discover that there is no perfect man out there. I have therefore learnt that as long as there is no physical abuse in any marriage, the couple can also cope by sorting out their differences. We must make our marriages work. Anyone who claims that her marriage is perfect is a liar.

“When I learnt the true situation as I grew older, I regretted my action, although I thank God that I have overcome that situation. Actually, my ex-husband was not maltreating me except that I was expecting so much from the marriage without understanding how marriage works. I left my marriage to look for that perfect man that would worship and pamper me. When I remarried, I realized that my first husband was not actually that bad, but then the mistake had been made. “I also recall that before I left my marriage, my mother would call me to advise me to stay in my marriage because there is no perfect man, but I would stubbornly tell her that my mind was made up to leave the marriage. When I came out, it dawned on me that my mother was telling me the truth.

“The major issue I had in my first marriage was my expectation that my husband should be worshipping me all the time, without realizing that marriage is give and take. When I started expecting a different attitude from my second relationship, I realized that it was the same thing that was happening in my first marriage and I had to change my attitude towards men and everything, became okay. Because I was a bit mature at the time I entered into the second marriage, I knew the fault was from me. That was when I decided to make young women know that there is no perfect marriage and then decided to write this motivational book”.

Ogoo said she has been visiting schools to talk to girls and relating her experiences, adding that the number of calls she receives from the girls after such visits shows that many girls are falling into wrong hands out of peer group influence.

She added: “There is this 15-year old girl in a secondary school who narrated how fellow girls were luring her into joining their gang to solicit and accept gifts from men so she could live big in school. In many secondary schools, because of poverty, some girls cannot maintain good hygiene like buying under wears and sanitary pads and even clothes and when they see other girls of the same poverty level living big in school, their friends try to convince them to get boyfriends, like them so they could take proper care of themselves.

“What I have discovered is that many girls in the secondary schools are bowing to the pressure of life and some of them have through such actions, undermined their academic programmes. In fact, many girls’ ambition these days is to just leave the secondary school and get married, thinking that life will be good, not knowing that it is the beginning of trouble in their lives.

Life does not work that way. The thing is that once such mistakes are made, it takes a long time to correct and by then, many of them would have missed their track”.

She explained that her present husband is her greatest motivator, noting that he encouraged her to write the book even when she almost gave up the idea. Chiamaka said that because of her experience in life, she is making the necessary effort to ensure that her daughter, Chimdiuto Ogoo is brought up in a proper way to avoid the kind of mistakes she made.

She also acknowledged the support of Mr. Onyedikachi Anyaonyeabor who motivated her to put her experience into a book to the benefit of young girls and mothers.

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Portable arrested over alleged defamation against Osupa

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Musician Habeeb Okikiola, popularly known as Portable

Portable arrested over alleged defamation against Osupa

Men of the Kwara State Police Command have arrested singer, Habeeb Okikilola Badmus aka Portable following a petition filed against him by his senior colleague, Okunola Saheed, popularly known as “Osupa,”

According to a statement from the spokesperson of the command, SP Adetoun Ejire-Adeyemi, the petition borders on serious allegations which includes criminal defamation, threat to life, incitement, character assassination, conduct likely to cause a breach of peace and the use of abusive and insulting words.

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‘’In view of the weight of these allegations and the supporting evidence presented, the Command secured a valid arrest warrant from a Magistrate Court sitting in Ilorin. Acting on this warrant, operatives from the Command proceeded to Abeokuta, Ogun State, on Sunday, 13th April 2025, where the suspect was apprehended at about 19:25hrs. He was immediately brought to Ilorin for further investigations.

Upon his arrival, the suspect’s statement was taken in the presence of legal representatives from both parties. ‘’

The police imagemaker added that Portable is currently in custody and arrangements are being made to charge him to court without delay.

Earlier today, Portable shared a video showing the moment he was picked up by the officers.

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Eedris Abdulkareem: I didn’t attack Seyi Tinubu with my new song

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Eedris Abdulkareem

Eedris Abdulkareem: I didn’t attack Seyi Tinubu with my new song

Veteran Nigerian rapper Eedris Abdulkareem has refuted claims that his latest track, Tell Your Papa, is a personal attack on Seyi Tinubu, son of President Bola Tinubu. Instead, he says the song is a direct response to Seyi’s public endorsement of his father as Nigeria’s “greatest president.”

Speaking on Channels Television’s Rubbin’ Minds, Abdulkareem explained that the track was inspired by a video clip in which Seyi passionately defended his father’s legacy during a political event in Yola, Adamawa State, in March.

“If Seyi hadn’t spoken, I wouldn’t have responded,” the rapper said. “The song is a message, not an insult. It’s a call for leadership that listens and acts on the issues affecting ordinary Nigerians.”

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Abdulkareem emphasized that the track addresses pressing concerns such as poor electricity supply, insecurity, unemployment, and the lack of a conducive economic environment for young Nigerians. He also criticized the National Broadcasting Commission’s (NBC) decision to ban the song from airplay, describing the move as censorship. The ban has drawn criticism from various quarters, including Nobel Laureate Prof. Wole Soyinka.

Reflecting on his 2001 hit Jaga Jaga, the artist said the continued relevance of that song highlights the country’s slow pace of progress.

“Seyi said his father is the best president,” Abdulkareem remarked. “Maybe he is—to him. But the average Nigerian youth is still struggling. There’s no food, no safety on the roads, and no jobs. I’d like Seyi to try traveling without security and see what citizens experience daily.”

He advised the younger Tinubu to take a step back from public speaking roles, saying, “Sometimes, silence says more. He lacks the clarity and honesty needed to speak on Nigeria’s real issues.”

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Song theft: Davido gets 21-day court order to respond to accusations

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David Adedeji Adeleke, popularly known as Davido

Song theft: Davido gets 21-day court order to respond to accusations

A U.S. federal court has given Nigerian music superstar David ‘Davido’ Adeleke 21 days to respond to a copyright infringement lawsuit accusing him of stealing a song from a group of Nigerian artists.

The case, filed at the United States District Court in Manhattan on April 4, was brought by Martins Chukwuka Emmanuel, Abel Great Umaru, Kelvin Ayodele Campbell, and David Ovhioghena Umaru.

The four allege that Davido copied their 2022 song Work to create his 2024 track Strawberry on Ice.

Also named in the lawsuit are Sierra Leonean artist Emmerson (Emmerson Amidu Bockarie), who featured on the song, and other contributors including Carlos Jenkins, Matthew Quinney, Marques Miles II, and Wynn Records, the label responsible for publishing and distributing the track.

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According to court documents, the plaintiffs initially shared Work with Davido in January 2022 in hopes of securing a collaboration. However, they allege that instead of working with them, Davido gave the song to Emmerson, who then “sampled its vocals and instrumentals to create Strawberry on Ice without permission.”

After attempts to resolve the matter privately, the plaintiffs claim the Grammy nominee reached a settlement agreement on March 14, 2025.

The deal reportedly included a payment of $45,000 and a royalty breakdown—“40% for the song’s composition and 20% for the recording.” However, Davido allegedly failed to meet the agreed March 24 deadline for honoring the settlement.

As a result, the plaintiffs are asking the court for $150,000 in damages and legal recognition of their contributions: “40% of the compositional rights and 20% of the recording rights for Strawberry on Ice.” They are also seeking an injunction to prevent the “Feel It” crooner and his collaborators from further infringement or similar actions in the future.

Davido has yet to make a public statement regarding the lawsuit, while Wynn Records also declined to comment when contacted.

 

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