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I’m out to make girls avoid pitfalls that crashed my marriage — Chiamaka Ogoo

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A motivational speaker and author, Mrs. Chiamaka Juliet Ogoo has been visiting girls secondary schools in Anambra State to inspire them to avoid pitfalls that could ruin their lives. She told Saturday Vanguard that as a young girl, she made a lot of mistakes which made her first marriage to crash and she learnt about life the hard way.

Chiamaka, a mother and now happily married, said her experience inspired her to write a book titled ‘Helping Her Win’, which is currently being distributed in the various secondary schools in Anambra State to enable girls understand that pride could ruin them if they were carried away by the things of life.

She said: “Helping Her Win is an inspiring lesson and experience of a mother passionate about mentoring young girls of 15 years and above to be in firm control of their lives. What motivated me to write the book was the kind of mistakes I made when I was growing up. In this country, many girls are not very close to their mothers to be able to learn how to avoid a situation whereby boys would deceive them to do what is not good for them. There are certain things the teenagers should do to avoid falling into wrong hands while growing up.

“So what motivated me was that having made mistakes in my life, I should help other girls to learn from my mistakes.

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“In fact 90% of the book contains my true life experiences and those of other girls I have interacted with in the course of mentoring them. I must say that I still regret some of the mistakes I made in life and I would not have made those mistakes if I had a book like the one I have just written.

“Because of naivety, I felt that my ex husband was not good enough for me and this caused so much rift between us and my desire was to leave him and go for another man out there because I was very beautiful, tall and fair. Without genuine reason, I left the marriage and went into another relationship only to discover that there is no perfect man out there. I have therefore learnt that as long as there is no physical abuse in any marriage, the couple can also cope by sorting out their differences. We must make our marriages work. Anyone who claims that her marriage is perfect is a liar.

“When I learnt the true situation as I grew older, I regretted my action, although I thank God that I have overcome that situation. Actually, my ex-husband was not maltreating me except that I was expecting so much from the marriage without understanding how marriage works. I left my marriage to look for that perfect man that would worship and pamper me. When I remarried, I realized that my first husband was not actually that bad, but then the mistake had been made. “I also recall that before I left my marriage, my mother would call me to advise me to stay in my marriage because there is no perfect man, but I would stubbornly tell her that my mind was made up to leave the marriage. When I came out, it dawned on me that my mother was telling me the truth.

“The major issue I had in my first marriage was my expectation that my husband should be worshipping me all the time, without realizing that marriage is give and take. When I started expecting a different attitude from my second relationship, I realized that it was the same thing that was happening in my first marriage and I had to change my attitude towards men and everything, became okay. Because I was a bit mature at the time I entered into the second marriage, I knew the fault was from me. That was when I decided to make young women know that there is no perfect marriage and then decided to write this motivational book”.

Ogoo said she has been visiting schools to talk to girls and relating her experiences, adding that the number of calls she receives from the girls after such visits shows that many girls are falling into wrong hands out of peer group influence.

She added: “There is this 15-year old girl in a secondary school who narrated how fellow girls were luring her into joining their gang to solicit and accept gifts from men so she could live big in school. In many secondary schools, because of poverty, some girls cannot maintain good hygiene like buying under wears and sanitary pads and even clothes and when they see other girls of the same poverty level living big in school, their friends try to convince them to get boyfriends, like them so they could take proper care of themselves.

“What I have discovered is that many girls in the secondary schools are bowing to the pressure of life and some of them have through such actions, undermined their academic programmes. In fact, many girls’ ambition these days is to just leave the secondary school and get married, thinking that life will be good, not knowing that it is the beginning of trouble in their lives.

Life does not work that way. The thing is that once such mistakes are made, it takes a long time to correct and by then, many of them would have missed their track”.

She explained that her present husband is her greatest motivator, noting that he encouraged her to write the book even when she almost gave up the idea. Chiamaka said that because of her experience in life, she is making the necessary effort to ensure that her daughter, Chimdiuto Ogoo is brought up in a proper way to avoid the kind of mistakes she made.

She also acknowledged the support of Mr. Onyedikachi Anyaonyeabor who motivated her to put her experience into a book to the benefit of young girls and mothers.

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Femi Adebayo, Dayo Amusa fight dirty over Bobrisky best dressed female award

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Femi Adebayo, Dayo Amusa fight dirty over Bobrisky best dressed female award

Nollywood actor, Femi Adebayo has broken his silence on the ongoing drama between his wife, Aduke, and actress, Dayo Amusa.

Taking to the comment section of her latest post, he stated that he now sees that the movie star is coming at him. Femi made it known that she wanted to pick a fight with the wrong person

He stated that if his success is her problem, then she can never have rest of mind because he has just started. He advised her to channel the energy on her career and should stop trying to bring him down.

“I now see that you truly want to come for me. You have actually done it with the wrong person. If my success is your problem, you can never have rest of mind because I have just started. It’s advisable you channel your energy to your career and not be too busy ok bringing me down”.

The whole drama started after Dayo Amusa heavily criticized Femi Adebayo over Bobrisky winning the Best Dressed Female award at Eniola Ajao’s movie premiere.

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Dayo, via her Instagram page, expressed her displeasure at the disrespect melted on the female gender present at the premiere. The actress called the judges and the organizers bluff stating they were wrong and not ok to have named a crossdresser the best dressed female. She claimed they should have created another category created to appreciate crossdressers.

Reacting to it via her Instagram page, Aduke blasted Dayo Amusa for trying to bring her husband down because he was the one presenting the award to Bobrisky. She questioned how the person who presented an award be blamed for it.

Further questioning where the brains of trolls were, she slammed his colleagues disguising as friends for publicly calling him out at every opportunity rather than putting a call through to him.

Taking to her comment section, Dayo Amusa stated that it is okay for Aduke to defend her husband, however, throwing bantas only shows how shallow-minded she is.

She stated that the actor had to own up, take responsibility for his actions, and do the needful. Dayo made it known that she isn’t an enemy in disguise as he added that hypocrisy doesn’t exist in her.

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I sold my house, land, cars, gold just to produce Ajanaku movie — Eniola Ajao

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I sold my house, land, cars, gold just to produce Ajanaku movie — Eniola Ajao

Eniola Ajao, a Yoruba Nollywood actress, spoke with her guests at the premiere of her film, Ajakaju (Beast of two worlds), on the pain and sleepless nights she had prior to and throughout production.

The legendary actress stated that she struggled to finance the multi-million naira project and had to sell up all her properties.

In her words,

“I’m happy tonight comes fast. I’ve been working and working and hoping things get better. This project is so dear to my heart, honestly because I sold all I had at that moment. My buildings, I sold my land, my cars, my gold.”

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The movie will be released March 29, 2024 and the internet is agong with the news. People cannot wait to see the much talked about movie in recent times.

It is beautiful to count the efforts Eniola Ajao’s colleagues, friends, fans and well-wishers put into promoting the film. From individual jingles to collective shout-outs, these people have shown massive love to her to which she is expressively grateful for.

She remarks that she cannot believe people love her until this moment.

Let us anticipate this blockbuster which brings a lot of A-list actors and actresses together to create visual magic

I sold my house, land, cars, gold just to produce Ajanaku movie — Eniola Ajao

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Veteran Nollywood actor Amaechi Muonagor dies at 62

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Veteran Nollywood actor Amaechi Muonagor dies at 62

Veteran Nollywood actor, Amaechi Muonagor, has died after a prolonged illness, at the age of 62.

This was disclosed by a social commentator, Morris Monye, via his X handle, on Sunday.

Muonagor was said to have suffered kidney failure and on dialysis.

The news of his demise came a few days after a viral video where he solicited funds to help him have a kidney transplant.

Monye wrote, “Deeply heartbroken by the news of Amaechi Muonagor’s passing.

“He was a talented Nollywood actor whose presence on our screens was truly masterful.

“We watched with concern as he battled health issues, offering whatever support we could to help him seek treatment in India. This tragic loss highlights the need for better healthcare in our country.”

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Muonagor, a native of Idemili, in Anambra State, was born August 20, 1962.

He was an actor and producer. In 2016, he was nominated for AMVCA 2017 Best Actor in a comedy.

In 1989, after his youth service, Muonagor started working for the News Agency of Nigeria.

He left his job a few years later for an acting role in his first movie as Akunatakasi in Taboo 1, a Nigerian movie.

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